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Old 12th February 2008, 11:56 AM   #1
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3 Year relationship - Need some imput !

I've been with this guy for 3 years & the past month has been hell.. he said he wanted space i gave him space.. we are down to hanging out 2 days a week.. he's constantly on his World Of Warcraft game... I Saw him last week on my birthday everything seemed fine.. & then friday we were supposed to hang out & he never called me so i didnt answer his texts all Sunday. I had asked him on Monday why he didnt call me - he claimed he was sick all weekend but common courtesy is to call and tell me your sick you cant hang out right? .. so then after we had talked about that he was on his one word answer bit ... & then today i had texted him offering to bring him lunch to work & he didnt answer... & then i sent him 2 fowards of valentines day texts & he told me to stop sending that crap .. And lastly i've sent him a text asking him what the hell his problem is and he hasnt even answered me.. I'm a nice person.. i do everything i can to make him happy.. what the heck is wrong here..

Also.. he never wants to talk about anything ever.. only time he wants to talk is in text messages & he isnt even doing that... I feel like i care more than him.. what am i doing wrong...
I feel like i'm respecting him & his space completely but yet nothing is working ..

We're supposed to go away this weekend to go see a concert.. looks like his computer wont be here will it.. but it shouldnt be that way.. & everyone knows he's with me.. his site says in a relationship & all.. he doesnt have many friends.. he has a temper too ..

Also if i try to talk to him in person he'll get irritated and ignore me if i want to talk to him about anything. I havent really put much into this because of how he's acting towards me i'm not texting/callin him all the time but i figured i'd send something to show i cared - and it backfired. He has all the space in the world.. is it true nice girls get taken for granet or is it the fac the's too immature for this? .. Last week when we were talking he wasnt happy with his job & he was talking to me about it on the phone & now he's all weird again.. i dont get it.. is it because i did what he did to me by ignoring his texts on Sunday & he's upset about it? i dont understand him..

Also he has never been there for any funerals for me - i have a sibling at home with a drug problem & he's not even there for me with that .. its getting to the ridiculas point..

I need all the help i can get with this..
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Old 12th February 2008, 2:28 PM   #2
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I say give him the space he asked for. Stop sending texts, stop calling him, and just go on with your life.
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Old 12th February 2008, 2:38 PM   #3
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I think you're dating my ex, lol. I totally understand the whole WOW thing. The being a total ass thing. The "need some space" thing. The not being there when you need him thing.

Seriously, listen to yourself. You already know what you need to do. Leave him. He is not worth your time. I put so much effort into making my ex happy, and it did not work. It sounds like you're struggling with the same exact thing. Oh, except one thing.... If my ex ever said he was going to get together with me and then failed to call, that would be the last straw. That's totally unacceptable. That's not how you treat someone you love, so either he's clueless about how to act appropriately in a relationship or he doesn't love you.
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Old 13th February 2008, 8:58 AM   #4
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Well - its been like this for a MONTH - we dont talk everyday - i dont always call him and text him .. so i have STOPPED ..

We're going away this weekend & since his computer wont be there then i'll just talk to him & probably break up with him there.
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Old 13th February 2008, 11:47 AM   #5
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I'm not sure why you would want to go away for the weekend with someone who ignores you and to whom you're currently not speaking. However, if you do actually end up going away, I hope you get the chance to really talk about what's going on,

Secondly, if you go to the AETV website -- to which I can't link here because outside links aren't allowed, but it's aetv.com/intervention -- you can watch a full episode about a video game addict. I mentioned it to you before and then saw that it's the episode they currently have on their site. I'd be interested to know if you see your ex in it.

And last but not least -- sorry, crazy English major -- it's "iNput." As in, you want people to put in their advice. *hides*
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