me and my guy have been in a relationship for amlost 5 months we started seeing each other in may, and during the summer things were great. he made time for me shcheduled his work hours to be around me ( we work together) and would call just because we would get together to hang out, wether there was a prospect of sex or not but now he's changed. maybe its ecause we are both in college and it's just our schedules that are crazy but he doesn't really seem to want to be with me, he'd much rather hang oput with his friends the same ones he's had for 8 years. And that's the other thing if i ask him to something with me he says "sure,i should be able to i'll let you know", which i have realized means 'sure i'll let you know at the last minute because i don't want to miss something better that my come along, like ya know scratchin' myself with the guys" and it's not like he doesn't see them at all! not only are the vast majority of his friends attending the same college they are in the same class, they lunch together and after school they workout together, every wednesday they have football practise and every sunday they have a game. i'm just so not in the picture an i don't know what to do. have i become boring or what? i would have thought i normal guy would at least be interested in sex more than twice a month but maybe i'm wrong. and no he's not cheating on me he's above that, and no it's not cause i'm unattractive we actually make a very good lookin' pair, i have a great sense of humor we laugh all time, and I DON'T GET IT!!!

Hey Michelle...

You say that you both work together, do you also live together?

It might be that your spending so much time together that he may be starting to feel "smoothered.."

The secret? Be more of a 'challenge'. Step back, don't chase him as much as you would have.

This may set alarm bells ringing in his head, and he may change.

It is human nature to want what we can't have. Any sign of desperation, and the other sex are off like a shot. Ask any geek that.

So if you look like your more confident, and not too desperate to keep him, the chances are, he'll come crawilin back to you.

Good Luck

Gimbal..