[nana79]

I am dating a recovered weed addict. He has been sober for 8 years now... Should that be an issue to be concerned abt???

[sally4sara]

I think eight years of not doing a drug that has little real addiction history is fairly safe. Of all the pitfalls one might have to deal with when becoming involved with a new person, there are far worse things than this.
What did weed do to their life that caused them to make the change and stop? The only truly detrimental weed addiction I've ever experienced was with my step father, but it wasn't just weed. He was also a closeted coke addict with narcissistic personality disorder.
Every other pot head I've ever know just paid bills a little late and sat at home a lot playing video games.

[juliegeraci]

Out of curiosity does he follow a 12 step program? That is always a plus.

[fanxdam]

i'm a recovering addict, and i can tell you that 8 years clean is a blessing not something to be concerned about. he clearly takes it seriously and i find that recovering addicts are a lot safer than active ones.

weed ruined my life. i had no ambition to do anything. dropped out of high school, would never go in to college; it made me lazy, i had no motivation to do anything, i was stealing and lying to everyone i loved. i think that it's the person not the drug. and towards the end i was beginning to get access to stronger drugs, and that's when i decided to do something about it.

so let me tell you something weed IS addictive mentally, and it can be a serious problem. it's more socially acceptable than heroin or cocaine, but it's still dangerous and it's still illegal for a reason.

[lovesparis]

i dated a guy who was clean 5yrs at the time, he was in steps. i never once worried about him going back to using.

the difficutly we faced was the program is very black and white, and that thinking translated to EVERYTHING in his & our life.

if he does meetings, i think it's important to go with him (at least sometimes) if he's comfortable with it (and they're open mtngs) it helps explain a lot.

good luck, and talk to him about his process. ask questions. i'm sure he'll be more than happy to answer them and address your concerns instead of you forming assumptions.