[confuzedgurl]

like...my bf broke up wit me and told me tat he wanted to be wit me but not as a bf...he has been bein a real jerk ever since and makes me hate him.. i dont know wat to do... should i break all contact wit him? or wat? ...i tried to break up contact but im just not that kind of person.. i feel really bad even though he did it to me.... i think he's heartless and i hate him...but it might be cuz of his's friend's recent death though....wat should i do...

[Conroy]

Warn him first before breaking contact that if he carries on then you will never speak to him. At least he will have a chance then

[Lee725]

Originally Posted by confuzedgurl

...i tried to break up contact but im just not that kind of person..

most of us are really that kind of person, most of us are here craving to speak with our ex's - you are not alone there.
The difference is NC is about you and working YOUR mind out.
Dont warn him, dont txt or email. Just stop & dont reply if he contacts you.

It does not make you heartless, it makes you look strong and willing to look after yourself.

If you think he is heartless, why would you want to listen to anything that he has to say.
If the break up has been recent and difficult, nothing good will come out of communication right now any way.

You both need time to cool off and think about things clearly.

[jessbaby24]

Yea u need to break contact with him.Im sorry but most men can real a**holes at time. Deal with it.It just life.

[confuzedgurl]

im gonna do wat u said then... i already deleted his number off my cell, im gonna stop talkin to him on msn and try to avoid him... thankz....soon enough, im gonna block him too....

[stbx2007]

Break it off and move on. Get busy with school or a job (or 2 jobs). I used to get jobs just to be too busy for men. Go out with girlfriends and enjoy their company. Don't break dates with them for a guy, ever. Refuse calls or conversations with your ex. You must move on. Leave this relationship in the past You are looking for a better relationship. Watch some feel good movies, some real good chick flicks. Read some good novels. Think of what you want to accomplish and take 2 steps in that direction. The worse thing you can do to someone is to forget them.

[confuzedgurl]

im tryin too.....i deleted him off facebook, i stopped talkin to him...i got my nails done...i got myself VERY busy....but whenever i see him.. i feel gulity and i just want to talk to him again...but instead i yelled at the guy infront of me to move and made a big scene which he saw....im soo embarassed....i was like" MOVE GODDAMIT" ...then guy infront of me ran away.... what should i dooo...i keep feelin bad then i do somethin stupid..

[Lee725]

Originally Posted by confuzedgurl

im tryin too.....i deleted him off facebook, i stopped talkin to him...i got my nails done...i got myself VERY busy....but whenever i see him.. i feel gulity and i just want to talk to him again...but instead i yelled at the guy infront of me to move and made a big scene which he saw....im soo embarassed....i was like" MOVE GODDAMIT" ...then guy infront of me ran away.... what should i dooo...i keep feelin bad then i do somethin stupid..

Before you do anything - anywhere, before you say anything to anyone, take a deep breath count to 5 then make your move or speak.

Think about what you are going to say, the context and the tone before you say it.
What you say and how you say it make all the difference.

You can ramble and ramble, but a single collected sentence can be as sharp as a knife.

Think about the way your body moves, your arms, legs, fists & facial expressions before you move.

This is the difference between tapping the guys shoulder in front and saying, "sorry - can i get past - Thanks", and grabbing his throat and pulling him out the way (joking).

Think about body language, how much sexier is the girl who sways when she walks, the one who is rythmic and collected, rather than the hunched over one who has clinched fists and is stomping ahead.

You are cool, you are collected, you think, then you move and speak.
You want him to know that you are sensational and beautiful and someone to be reckoned with not a mess who misses him. (even tho inside you do)

You are upset. You are angry. This is normal.
You are moving to quickly for your brain to keep up.
You are thinking of the next thing to say before you get the last sentence out.

There is a difference between keeping busy and going fast.
You want to keep your mind occupied so that you dont think about him, but at the same time keep your body relaxed. Tension breeds tension.

Sorry confuzedgurl, i went off on a tanjent with this one (not unusual for me), but i just needed to tell you that sometimes when we slow down and breath and loose some of the anger - the most wonderful things happen and amoungst them can be not caring about them way we did.

[confuzedgurl]

he was bein mean to my friend today and i realli hated it....i keep gettin jealous of the girls he's with and accordin to one of his friends....he's a 'free bird' now and he's hangin out wit alll girls now...i just get so pissed