[TwoStepsBack]

ArG! so where do i start...

The beginning I guess,

About 2 1/2 Years ago while I was in a relationship I met a girl online and hit it off with her like ive known her for years already and have spoke to her till up till a year ago when I started to have troubles with the current girlfriend I was with and so did my online friend with her boyfriend.

About 3 weeks ago I received a email from my friend asking what I have been up to and explaining how she broke up with her boyfriend a few months prior and how she is living by herself etc now and it was all for the best and so on, I replied and we started talking once again....

and heres my problem... This time its just different, Im single and so is she, and we have been talking over the phone etc for 4+ hours per day and still have not found any loss of words or moments where I wanted jsut to stop talking >.<

3 week later and I just cant stop thinking about this girl.. I mean i jsut cant stop lol im 24 at the moment and ive been in my fair share of long relationships and have left love and lose many times, but ive never gone so crazy over a girl before like i am now.

at the moment while thinking over her over and over I start to feel like some kinda of crazy guy obsessed.

and now to top it all off, she is overseas and I have no idea what to do!!

Do I keep it as the love I never realized and can never have? or do I see where it goes and hope things involve into something we both will want to work on and with that move close to each other etc, and how do a shake this whole "on my mind 24/7" thing.

this girl is driving me crazy and im just lost to what to do

Sorry for the rant!

- B

[ElvenPriestess]

Wow! Well I don't think you're crazy obsessed, I'd say you're just crazy about her! You have obviously met some one that makes you feel things you haven't before, and obviously there's something very special about her. Something you don't want to let go of. Over seas? Why? And how long? That could be a tough one unless it's just temporary. As far as everything else, if she'll be coming back near your location anytime soon, figure out where she stands, how she feels about you. You have got to tell her how you feel, explain some of the feelings the way you explained them to us. But only of course if both of your situations are right for it. Are there any signs she has deeper feelings for you?

[taiko]

If she is a foreign national it is about decision time. Do you take the risk of visiting her? Do this sooner rather then later. At worse, she is not really a she but one of those internet game players or professional scammers. But if that is the case you do get to see part of the world you may have never thought possible.

So get together your passport start learning what the visa process is like and make that trip before internet chats become stale and she finds another local boyfriend.. If you are unable to afford the trip, well the relationship would have never moved past the internet stage anyway.

[TwoStepsBack]

Originally Posted by ElvenPriestess

Are there any signs she has deeper feelings for you?

Oh yes plenty!! lol, my whole problem is do I go out and say what we both are thinking? and do I take the risk of committing to a long distance relationship which might take awhile to be local.

Also don't want to come on too strong as thats not the kinda guy I am lol

Originally Posted by taiko

If she is a foreign national it is about decision time. Do you take the risk of visiting her? Do this sooner rather then later. At worse, she is not really a she but one of those internet game players or professional scammers. But if that is the case you do get to see part of the world you may have never thought possible.

The risk of visiting her isn't a huge problem, shes wants me to go see her, and so on, sooner rather then later has always been my option, just having to go see her then come back will drive me nuts.

and there is no way she is not a she or a scammer lol, phone convo's, pictures, other people I know that know her all confirm this

Originally Posted by taiko

So get together your passport start learning what the visa process is like and make that trip before internet chats become stale and she finds another local boyfriend.. If you are unable to afford the trip, well the relationship would have never moved past the internet stage anyway.

Done and done! one of the first things i have done is figure out as much as possible if this could work, still I just don't know!

And thats another thing, ive been talking to her for so long as still talking online or on the phone has not become stale, if she found a local guy and went that way... then so be it im not going to stop what will make her happy

Money is not a object when it comes to her either, its just the whole screwing around and making the effort to be with her that im not sure would be worth the stress on either of us.

[j_hunt_12]

I think you should flip a coin.

LD really does suck, but it could be worth it. I'll get back to you in a few years to tell you how it worked out for me.

[taiko]

You can't win if you don't play