Girlfriend went snowboarding with a group of ten and didn't ask me to go
I am 32 and so is my girlfriend. We have been together a year and a half. She mentioned a month ago that she might go see a friend for a few days around new years. Didn't think much of it. About 6 days ago I said are you going away and she says yes, I am going to be gone all week. She had already taken the time off and never mentioned anything to me. I said that seems like a long time. I said where are you saying. She said her friend rented a cabin and ten of them were going. This bothered me. I think she is a dick for not inviting me. It is one thing to go away for a few days with a girlfriend but another to go away with a group of 10 and not included me. Made me feel kind of like crap. She clearly didn't want me there. What are everyone's thoughts on this? If rolls were reversed I clearly would ask her to go and want her there.
Hey Andy. Same thing happend to me with one of my now exs. Maybe its the same girl haha. Anyway , that is really harsh of her to do and yes it does kinda seem like she doesnt want you there. However, have you considered that maybe she didnt invite you because she just wants time away? Perhaps you guys may have been spending too much time together and she just wants an "Andy Break". Id rather not tell you what happend to me when I had that similar situation. Personally Id just see what happens if shes already gone. If not then ask her why you are not invited since it seems strange you would invite her.
I have thought of that. She is very independent so I have learned to give her more space and time to herself. I just have never been with someone who plans a week trip without me when it is big group of people going boarding. I think girls trips for the weekend to vegas or whereever is cool. Or even if she was going to visit this girl alone for a week. Just didn't feel good to be excluded on something like this. She is already gone. We got into a fight new years eve day and I have not spoken to her or seen her since.
Is it a group of 10 girls, or are guys going as well? If it's just the girls then you shouldn't be too upset. BUT, if guys are going, then yes, you have every right to feel upset, let alone wonder wtf your relationship is heading with this girl.
It's not like she has to run her choices by you, but you should atleast know what her plans are, instead of being left in the dark.
Something feels weird about this, so talk to her once she's back. Do some thinking, ask yourself is she worth the hassle? What am I getting out of this relationship. . Etc..
Honestly it is about not being included. I would never say I am going away with ten people see ya. I would include her in whatever i do. Unless it was a guy trip or something.
She went on a trip without you and didn't want you to go.
If you don't like that don't put up with it. Very simple.
If you have a hard time with the emotional aspect, well, I suggest you start hitting the gym (if you don't) and meet other women ASAP. Don't feel so bad about this, consider the fact that she's meeting other guys as well.
Well put , whichwayisup, I totally agree. Andy you have spent a year and a half with her. Its time to consider if your just wasting your time with her but that all depends on what it is you want out of that relationship. Personally in that situation since i was in a similar situation, I was livid. I eventually found out what it was she actually did so I moved on and met another girl almost 3 weeks later. Honestly man, dont waste your time its all we have!
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