[monkey5]

I meet a lot of guys through work and school...but I've had absolutely no luck. There were 2 guys I did originally have feelings for (both at different times)...but something about them really, really turned me off.

Guy #1, was a 22 year old (I'm 19)...he seemed like he had his act together and I started taking a liking to him. We had a lot in common and he was interesting to talk to. After a while, he started following me around like a puppy dog...and even getting jealous when I talked to other guys at work. One night, I was helping him finish up at work (it was already 9, and there was quite a bit to get done, so I stayed overtime & helped out) when out of the blue, he turns to me & says, "You wanna hear something really weird? I want kids...like right now!....but I don't have a girlfriend." Obviously he was hinting at this...and to be perfectly honest, it scared the crap out of me.
After that incident, he would appear behind me staring me up & down...and basically going out of his way to be around me. it just came of as needy, clingy, and controlling. A few weeks later (weeks of avoiding him), I started looking for a new job. After I found one, I returned to work to pick up my check...unfortunately, I ran into him and he was acting really condescending...

Guy #2 was probably one of the nicest, most respectful guys I have ever met in a long time. he had the looks of a male model without knowing it...but yet carried himself confidently. He was extremely intelligent and a lot of fun to be around (we had similar backgrounds)...Unfortunately, he left for college. (He was a year younger than me, but extremely mature for a guy that age.)

I feel like my love life is hopeless. I know this sounds ridiculous coming from a 19 year old. I moved to a new state a year ago...and still have yet to meet permanent friends. So not having a boyfriend, while everyone else I meet has one is giving me a bit of a complex.

This was a pretty long rant, I apologize...Was anyone else ever in the same boat or felt the same way?

I am not comfortable enough to walk up to a guy on the street and give him my number...that just seems dumb to do before I know them on a comfortable level.

[Legend]

Haven't really been in a situation like that. I've read it twice now, and maybe i'm missing something, but why is this your fault again?

side note: If a girl walked up to me randomly and gave me her number, I'd take her on a date just for having the guts to do that.

[monkey5]

I just feel like things are my fault, even though they aren't.

I don't know if I'm being "batty" or if the excuse to avoid guy #1 is good enough

[Trialbyfire]

So...one guy creeped you out and another moved away. How is this so bad?

What's more important? Saying you have a love life or finding someone compatible?

[blind_otter]

You just moved to a new area, give yourself time to aclimate to the new surroundings, make friends, get comfortable....then you can extend your feelers. You have lots of time ahead of you so just relax. None of this is your fault.