I have been single for a long time now and have not had any desire to date for a while. Everyone around me seems to have a problem that I don't have a bf family, friends, strangers the "Aww you don't have a bf" you get it. My world used to revolve around guys when I was younger meeting jerk and jerk I just gave up. Yes it would be nice to have a bf but I am in NO WAY looking to get married, move in with anyone, anything like that. I may also add that I tend to be really picky and well little things will annoy me which I'm trying to work on. Anyway, I 'm talking to this guy I met online. We talked a few times on the phone, each time for a few hours and we do have soo much in common and he does seem nice. Thing is he wanted to hang out right away. I told him I had plans already. The one thing that is getting on my last nerve is his agreeing with everything I say. I really want to say to him please stop saying yea me too to everything. He straight out told me he's looking for a relationship with is great and all but if I was a guy or a girl who knew how to play their cards right I would never tell someone that right away, especially before I even met them in person. Me, I'm more aloof and I can play hard to get at times. He's also always text messaging me. I mean we've only been talking for a week. I admit if I am at work I'll respond. But the continuous hey what's ups..now the past few days I haven't responded. I mean it's not like non stop or anything but I'm also not a big texter. But he also did text me to see how I was feeling when he knew I was sick so at least he listens. We have tentative plans for this coming weekend. I mean I guess I should give this guy a chance and I would bet I'm his only prospect as of now which is why he's being soo aggressive or he thinks I'm just that hot lol. Can't he show a little bit mystery or something come on now. The worst comment he made was that all his mom and dad want for him is to get married and leave the house. Um, it sounds like they think they have a daughter instead of a son. I guess it's just that I'm used to meeting a$#$# the type who you have no idea what they want, will say they call and don't and never seem eager to hang out lol. And now there's him. I also don't want to be a witch to him for no reason all because I have sorta jaded view on guys. What do you all think?
Last edited by Heavenly55; 4th November 2007 at 8:22 PM.
He sounds eager to me. But maybe he really likes you.
You two started talking a week ago? Or have you been talking longer?
Because if it's just been a week then I would say he's got problems. Big problems.
I said a week in my post. So the text messages indicate a mental problem lol. I find texts to be sorta impersonal. It's not like he's calls every day and I've never called him yet. Like I said I'm just not used to this. Today I didn't respond to his text. I'm thinking this will give him the hint. I mean I'll most likely hang out with him this weekend but if there's anything I don't like I'm outta there.
He straight out told me he's looking for a relationship with is great and all but if I was a guy or a girl who knew how to play their cards right I would never tell someone that right away, especially before I even met them in person. Me, I'm more aloof and I can play hard to get at times.
This sort of comment always surprises me when said by someone who's referring to someone they met on a dating website. If you're not on a personals website for a potential relationship, what are you there for? The only other option I can surmise is a FWB scenario. Isn't it better that he's removing the FWB potential from the equation? Isn't stating that you're looking for a relationship to someone you met on a dating website simply stating the obvious? Why does everyone walk around assuming "I'm looking for a relationship" mean "I'm hoping to have a relationship WITH YOU"??
But anyway.
That all having been said, everything else you mentioned about the guy makes him sound a tad bit over eager - particularly the texting.
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Look, if you aren't ready to date or meet people then don't. But don't crap on this poor guy because he likes you. Meet up with him or not, but give him a break.
I guess it's just that I'm used to meeting a$#$# the type who you have no idea what they want, will say they call and don't and never seem eager to hang out lol.
He sounds as if he has no life of his own to me. How he makes so much time for someone he just started talking to means either he really likes you, which is odd because he barely knows you, or that he has nothing better to do with himself.
This guy is weirdo.
Needy people suck.
If you do decide to meet up with him have a friend call you a half hour into the date. In case you are in need of an emergency situation.
This sort of comment always surprises me when said by someone who's referring to someone they met on a dating website. If you're not on a personals website for a potential relationship, what are you there for? The only other option I can surmise is a FWB scenario. Isn't it better that he's removing the FWB potential from the equation? Isn't stating that you're looking for a relationship to someone you met on a dating website simply stating the obvious? Why does everyone walk around assuming "I'm looking for a relationship" mean "I'm hoping to have a relationship WITH YOU"??
But anyway.
That all having been said, everything else you mentioned about the guy makes him sound a tad bit over eager - particularly the texting.
Can you please point out where I wrote in my original post anything about meeting him from a dating website? Because I didn't.
Can you please point out where I wrote in my original post anything about meeting him from a dating website? Because I didn't.
I think this is what is throwing people off
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Anyway, I 'm talking to this guy I met online. We talked a few times on the phone, each time for a few hours and we do have soo much in common and he does seem nice. Thing is he wanted to hang out right away. I told him I had plans already. The one thing that is getting on my last nerve is his agreeing with everything I say. I really want to say to him please stop saying yea me too to everything. He straight out told me he's looking for a relationship with is great and all but if I was a guy or a girl who knew how to play their cards right I would never tell someone that right away, especially before I even met them in person. Me, I'm more aloof and I can play hard to get at times. He's also always text messaging me.
Anyway what I think is you should stop wasting this guy's time because he already annoys you and your standards are so high that why would you want to settle for this guy when it sounds like doesn't even scratch the surface of what you want? Go back to being single again and keep waiting for Mr Perfect or Mr Azzhole, which ever comes first.
Last edited by pollywag; 7th November 2007 at 8:40 PM.
Anyway what I think is you should stop wasting this guy's time because he already annoys you and your standards are so high that why would you want to settle for this guy when it sounds like doesn't even scratch the surface of what you want? Go back to being single again and keep waiting for Mr Perfect or Mr Azzhole, which ever comes first.
yes i think you are acting like the guy is committing a crime by just being keen. Perhaps the problem is within you and not him - in that you prefer to do the chasing. This guy is not something you are used to thats all.
Another thing - I bet if he backed right off you'd be keen as on him.
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