[loripuff]

What is it about human nature that we want people who are off limits? Is it the thrill of winning? Validation? Are these people who we could have had a great relationship with if circumstances had been different and they were available? Why do I get so much satisfaction of thinking that I'm more attractive than his wife? (this is a little arrogance on my part....she's about 320#, uneducated, somewhat obnoxious, and has two teenage kids from other encounters and several other people have commented that they just don't "get" the two of them). Nothing serious has happened but I know that it could if I would let it.
I know all this is bad, but why do I still want him....someone explain this to me.

[norajane]

You want him the taboo or unavailable because you have created a fantasy in your head that you are buying into...the fantasy of what things 'could be like' between you. You think 'all the signs are there that things could be fantastic' and the little selfish side of you doesn't want to pass up that possibility.

The reality is usually very different. And 325# or no, he's still married, so what's the point? You want to get involved in his marriage? Or do you actually want to find a fantastic relationship with someone who is available NOW to freely and openly make your dreams come true?