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There is a girl in one of my classes at school that sits next to me. We never really said much to each other other than like hi and that test sucked and stuff. Out of nowhere now she is like smiling and like saying hey to me with her friends around when we pass in th halls and stuff. We still don't talk much to each other in class but like I have caught her looking at me out the corner of my eye and when she notices I saw, she turns away really quick. could this all mean anything? I am horrible at trying to pick up on this stuff.
what are you waiting for? She's sending you all these signals!! You better do something about it before she gets tired of waiting around and moves on. She would much rather that you make the first move.
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Well, we will see how class tomorrow goes. I have to give a presentation but when I am done, I will try to start talking to her. I don't about what though!
Here is what I'd do: use the touch test. One day, touch her (on the elbow, back etc, not hands) a couple of times. She'll notice. See if she starts touching you. Every time she touches you, touch her back twice (not then, later on). The rest is up to you...
So I have tried talking to her more in class. Like "bleh that test sucked, how did you do" and junk like that to just try and get a convo started but they always go well for a minute or two then falter.
i saw her at the football game on friday as me and a friend were leaving. she was with a couple friends but said hey so i went over and started talking to her. I guess i was feeling a little brave, lol. I tried the touch thing though. Gave her a high five, haha (first thing that came to mind that i could think of to try the touch test). But like she didn't let go of my hand right away, you know? She like held on to it after i high fived her as we were talking.
I want to ask her to hang out like next weekend but I can never think of what to say. And what if she says no? Like just flat out no, I mean what should I say? "OK, cool?"
And the saying hey to me when we pass isn't just me, she does that to like everyone she passes cuz she knows a lot of people, so that was nothing. But I guess everything that happened on friday was a good thing!
I read your post and I'm glad to hear you're making progress. From what i've read it def seems like she's sending interested signals.
As far as asking her to do something, here's what usually works for me:
1. Be creative
2. Don't make it sound too much like a date (Be more casual) as it puts too much pressure on both of you. Being casual will allow you'll to relax and have more fun.
3. Be prepared for rejection. If it happens, no big deal...act careless and say "Hey maybe next time." The more your rejected, the less you'll care. This will ultimately increase your confidence.
Sounds like a possibility for the casual stuff everyone is mentioning.
In highschool I was shy, and skeptical when girls would try to be nice sometimes.
Heres the deal, chicks especially teenagers in highschool are random as heck and rediculously complicated. They change day to day. So if they are nice to you for a while, it usually fades the next year cause you no longer have a class with them. Plus they mature more than they already are, so they start becomeing more picky and prudish. They only talk with the people they want to and usually don't go out of their way to speak with random people like the underclassmen ones would.
It may have hurt me to not invest more that i did in those brief moments where I "meant" something to a female. I never did have a female friend or gf in highschool. I kinda knew a couple, kinda came and went. I was shy and not trustful of them. They say high if they see me at my work, and smile, but they are still in highschool and I say hi back, but it is wierd cause they weren't hardly ever that nice when I was still there last year.
Well I mean what should I say? What should I suggest? Her friends and my friends don't really hang out much so it would be kind of awkward to have her hang out with me with a bunch of friends around cuz she wouldn't know anyone, and vice versa.
I'm not so much worried about rejection. It's more that I don't know what to suggest that wouldn't too date like you know? All the home football games are over so I can't really like meet up with her there or anything.
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