[shute]

i tried to ask a girl at work out but was just about flat out rejected. i thought all the signs were there, always laughing at my jokes, asking me a lot of personal questions and always looking eye to eye to me. i just can't believe i could be so wrong and make such a jackass out of myself. I didn't give a rats ass about her when she first started, it was only after talking a lot that i found out what a nice person she is. Anyways ever since that jackass move by me things have been very uneasy... i do my best to distance myself but our work would always force us together and i feel very "low" when i try to ignore her questions or attempts at conversations. how can i be nice to her professionally without falling for her even more? what do i do when she tries to start up a conversation or asks me open ended questions that would result in me knowing even more about her personal life?

[Yamaha]

It will be a little awkward but hold your head up, accept the friendship she is offering and get over the rejection. She likes you but not the same way you like her. You just have to put it behind you and find romance with a different girl ( and I would suggest not finding her at work ).

[SuperHands]

Ok she's rejected you and it hurts but you shouldn't feel like a jackass. There is no failure here, you've just eliminated a possibilty of success. You've expressed how you've felt and she hasn't taken you up on it. Never mind, the friendship is still there and you should focus on that. You can still have a great time with her.

Remember that the awkwardness is in your head. You just have to keep telling your mind, in a nice positive way, that you are friends and as Yamaha says, focus on finding someone else. You'll get so caught up in that, you'll forget all about this.

[shute]

you guys all say enjoy the friendship but how can you be friends with someone without falling for them. it's like the more she talks the more i fall for her. i find myself sitting in a locked roomed at work sometimes taking a time out before i fall head over shoulders for her again. i don't say hello when she walks in, i don't say cya or goodbye when she leaves and i do my best to time our breaks so that we see as little of each other... then there are times when she asks if i need help and i say yes not because i need it but because i just want to spend time with her. in the end i find myself locking myself in that room again with regret.