I decided not to get over him. I decided to take a little bit from all of the wisdom shared with me here and I'm mushing it around to suit. I'm not going to get over the past with him, instead I keep accepting what was and is. I'm not going to get over the future that isn't with him, because no one knows what the future holds other than eventual death.
I decided to just keep being Carrot with my quirks and questions and love of cats and mustard and risk theory. I decided there isn't really anything to get over. And what for to get over? I don't want to get over something so I can have an unpredictable future. I'm going to have an unpredictable future no matter what!
I decided not to get over him. I decided to take a little bit from all of the wisdom shared with me here and I'm mushing it around to suit. I'm not going to get over the past with him, instead I keep accepting what was and is. I'm not going to get over the future that isn't with him, because no one knows what the future holds other than eventual death.
I decided to just keep being Carrot with my quirks and questions and love of cats and mustard and risk theory. I decided there isn't really anything to get over. And what for to get over? I don't want to get over something so I can have an unpredictable future. I'm going to have an unpredictable future no matter what!
That's one way of addressing it by allowing your "now" to drive you. So you go through the motions of living, accepting what life has to give you, whether good or bad.
Not my style carrot but then, each person has to come up with a way to cope. You can either let your environment drive you, or you can drive your environment.
I'd rather have an unpredictable future that is at least 50% likely to be positive, than have these memories of lost love and possiblities to deal with forever. I miss her badly but she did me wrong and took my trust and belief with her. I don't want to wallow in the mire that she left me in for the rest of my days. I want to be happy again.
It might be time for an demonstration of consequence. Could you arrange to have flowers delivered to you at work? A single rose with some spray and a vague note like "I look forward to seeing you again...John".
Before I forget to mention, living in the "now" and allowing life to drive you, doesn't make anyone a warrior or chieftain. What I've discovered is that it makes you one of the walking wounded.
You can either let your environment drive you, or you can drive your environment.
Tri, I like to think it's both and neither.
Perhaps it's a little of long live the head the body is dead but really, I don't care for rules without proof and before I go about ordering and limiting my universe, I'd like to know what there is first!
Before I forget to mention, living in the "now" and allowing life to drive you, doesn't make anyone a warrior or chieftain. What I've discovered is that it makes you one of the walking wounded.
Welcome the wonderful world of Carrot!
We are the warriors! We are the chieftans! was the cry from the SNL skit, Lothar of the Hill People. Come on, you don't remember the prehistoric guys who sat around mulling the timeless problems of men and women relating with each other?
Somehow the reminder that love, the feeling, is neither provable nor disprovable reminded me of Lothar.
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Originally Posted by Sanslatete
I'd rather have an unpredictable future that is at least 50% likely to be positive, than have these memories of lost love and possiblities to deal with forever. I miss her badly but she did me wrong and took my trust and belief with her. I don't want to wallow in the mire that she left me in for the rest of my days. I want to be happy again.
Sans, it's just as possible and even probable that at any given point in the future you will experience more and less of "happy" regardless of your actions or intent.
I'm going to enjoy my life now AND later (along with the miserable portions I'm sure) since barring death, I'll be doing that at some level anyway. I don't need to falsely perpetuate misery now to prove to myself that a better future awaits. Not saying that's what it is for you, but that is what it would be for me.
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Originally Posted by underpants
It might be time for an demonstration of consequence. Could you arrange to have flowers delivered to you at work? A single rose with some spray and a vague note like "I look forward to seeing you again...John".
Perhaps it's a little of long live the head the body is dead but really, I don't care for rules without proof and before I go about ordering and limiting my universe, I'd like to know what there is first!
Carrot.
Limit? Who's talking limits or order? Both are against my religion. No doubt we limit ourselves but why should we?
Regarding limits, for me, putting bounds on the unknown is more of a mind-flusk than dealing with the reality of plain old unknown. Which isn't to say I prefer not knowing, only that in the absence of knowing, I take no benefit from clinging to that which is false over floundering in the ooze of that which is not yet proved.
Haha...you're trying to create order from the unknown. There's nothing to cling to, nothing to organize or categorize. You accept that there are no limits or order, you don't try to control it. Embrace it baby!!
Oh. Vodka, okay, pass me a glass. Seabreeze martini please.
There's nothing to cling to, nothing to organize or categorize. You accept that there are no limits or order, you don't try to control it. Embrace it baby!!
Yah!
I was kidding about the vodka. Still out. But a SeaBreeze does sound good. Virtual cocktails all around!
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but really, I don't care for rules without proof and before I go about ordering and limiting my universe, I'd like to know what there is first!
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