Hello everybody, had another D day, second one this year. I have been with MM already 3 years, BWknows about 1 1/2. We went on vacation together and he caught caught, took him back in again. What is she thinking at time. She know he is not stopping, please no bashing, this is hard enough, thanks.
Hello everybody, had another D day, second one this year. I have been with MM already 3 years, BWknows about 1 1/2. We went on vacation together and he caught caught, took him back in again. What is she thinking at time. She know he is not stopping, please no bashing, this is hard enough, thanks.
Mino,
How many more d-days before he leaves his wife?
Did she take him back this time too?
What are YOU waiting for?
TF
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Sounds like he's riding the ego wave.
He wants you and his W.
I'd make the choice for him and move on. His W has more history with him, therefore is why she takes him back.
The first time, he might be forgiven, but I'd dump his a*ss the 2nd time.
You and his BW should both do that, and then move on with your lives.
Is he really that good of a catch? Doubt it!
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I have a question that I think is kind of on topic, and which I promise I ask with an open mind:
Does the nature of your relationship with a MM change, between the time that it is simply hidden from an unknowing W, and the time that the W discovers it and takes him back, and the A becomes a kind of an active deception?
I can kind of understand that the initial "hidden" phase could be rationalized as if it's invisible, no one knows, it's like it doesn't even exist to the W. But then once it becomes real to her, do you see the relationship differently - and specifically, do you see the MM differently? It seems more passive to be able to say at the beginning, well, it's just happening and no one knows... But then does it get more intentional once it becomes more of a cat and mouse game?
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he got caught, she took him back in again. What is she thinking at time. She know he is not stopping,
honestly? Probably that you're just a passing phase – after all, he still remains married with her. And I imagine telling her that (1) she's imagining things, (2) is crazy, or, (3) he's already ended it with you, but you refuse to leave him alone. My guess is that it's No. 3, because that's most likely the easiest lie to keep as he perpetuates relationships with both of you.
I think blue rose avatar has the right point: both of y'all need to dump his butt – or tag team together and confront him point-blank about the direction his life is going to take. Honestly? Neither of you deserve to live half a life while he's living high off the hog as he plays you both to get what he wants.
I've said it before: If you're planning on screwing around, you don't have any business being married.
now go take a board to his jackass self and make him declare a loyalty to one of you gals, not make you the victims of his divided loyalty.
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She takes him back because he keeps coming back to her. You really need to ask yoursefl why he keesp doing that. He obviously doesn't want to leave her. He's already had two outs and has passed them by.
This man will continue to fool his wife and use her, just like he is with you. The thing is, she is married to him, and probably feels she has to keep on forgiving him. They have history, and family together...You aren't obligated to stick around...But she is. (Just another way of looking at things.)
Honestly, he deserves neither of you. I hope his wife kicks him to the curb and you tell him to f**k off.
I wonder when the time does come when she drops him and he cheats on you, will you take him back???
If he's cheating on his wife?!!? whom he has history and possibly kids with. What happens if he get's bored? or he finds someone else with better coochie.
U nned to embrace reality. It might not work out for you either. Think about that.
If he's cheating on his wife?!!? whom he has history and possibly kids with. What happens if he get's bored? or he finds someone else with better coochie.
Is this what you'd say to the W? He's cheating on her for better coochie? Come on and get real...If you think an A that lasts that long is about sex, you're only deluding yourself...
Remember, men are able to separate love and sex...Even if they do feel emotional attachment, they can shut that off pretty damn quick if need be.
So if that's true a men must do that to their W's too? Compartmentalise what they get from them..
C'mon really? a man can detach himself from a fling but I dunnow about a 3yr rel. there is a lot more at stake there...
I'd love to hear men's opinion on that thought. I just don't think that men are that different than we are when it comes to long term attachement...yes they can do that in short flighty type connections but I don't think it is so like that in a 3yr rel..I could be mistaken.
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