[Fettman]

Is there any good way to tell if someone is actually interested or is just acting nice? I myself am a bit confused seeing as how Ive never been close to anyone, never as much as been on a date. Sad and all, but Ive never been able to bring myself to ask someone out. So with this Im not to sure if someone is expressing interest or is just simply nice.

Also not sure if it matters, but the person Im "into" at this time is like 15+ years older. As well as a coworker and such.

[Saxis]

Only one way to find out... get your flirt on, and if the person responds in a positive way, you're good to go! Getting over that fear of rejection is tough, but such is life. Go for it!

[ftheunion]

I don't know either. I don't think there is a way to tell, because they are nice to people they like as well as people they have a mad crush on.

[Sleek Geek]

Well if you asked that person out and they accept, then clearly they are interested enough to get to know you more. That's a good start isn't it?

[Yosef]

Originally Posted by Sleek Geek

Well if you asked that person out and they accept, then clearly they are interested enough to get to know you more. That's a good start isn't it?

Never just walk up and ask someone out. Build a connection first. Don't be reckless.

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Im assuming you're too shy to flirt. It's typical. Don't try anything you're not comfortable with doing until you build comfort in it by taking small steps at a time.

Saxis, your advice is not very good advice. You're pushing someone to take chances they arent comfortable making. You need to be a little more reasonable.

It is difficult to tell. Sometimes a love-connection isn't made until you become more acquainted with that person, as the case was of me. You need to take your time trying to get into a relationship. Rushing things is reckless and can end up failing your chances before you even start.

I wish you the best of luck and wisdom.

[Sleek Geek]

Originally Posted by Yosef

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Rushing things is reckless and can end up failing your chances before you even start.

Sure but I find it is always better to test out the waters early rather then hang on to a unreciprocated crush for months. BTDT. It really played a more of a number on my self-esteem then the times I found out a guy wasn't interested. At least from there you can move on.

If you are very shy, try to organize a group outing where you two can get to know each other a little more outside of the context of work. I still think that if you are interested, you will eventually need to make yourself vulnerable.

[solo_flyer]

You should compare how this person acts when they are interacting with you compared to how they interact with other people.

Some people normally are really friendly and you might think they are flirting, but they just behave that way with everyone.

[Green]

Ive had sex with hot girls who just nice. look if you like her you should try to get something going whether or not she actualy likes you. Just chat her up with some open ended convo like did you do anything this weekend if she says yeah i saw a movie or something just get her talking about it. if she says no ask her what she would do on her perfect weekend or something like that basicaly just start and take control of a conversation get her talking abit. You dont need to ask her out on a date just tell her you have a good time talking and that she needs to give you her number so you can get togather some time say you'll call some night when your free. Then just invite her to hang out if you like golf take her to a driving range or what ever, if u like movies go see a movie with her, now this is important you have to go in for a kiss at the end of the hang out or what ever. oh yeah and be a man and be confident getting rejected never killed any one