Guys--How long were you with your wife, gf, etc. when you lost interest in seeing her naked (i.e., seeing her naked didn't really arouse you)?
My wife is very attractive and I love her very much, but after 5 years together (and 3 months of marriage), I'd rather read a book than jump on her those times when she comes to bed naked. I can't seem to get her to understand this.
You are probably a troll, well at least I am hoping. I feel sorry for your wife. I am sure that you make her feel so loved when you are trying to get her to understand you don't desire her body anymore.
Beauty fades, what matters most is the heart. So far you need to check that area, so that when you two are old she will still want to love YOU.
Guys--How long were you with your wife, gf, etc. when you lost interest in seeing her naked (i.e., seeing her naked didn't really arouse you)?
My wife is very attractive and I love her very much, but after 5 years together (and 3 months of marriage), I'd rather read a book than jump on her those times when she comes to bed naked. I can't seem to get her to understand this.
3 months of marriage is not long at all to be feeling like this already. How old are you both?
Why do you feel you have lost interest?
I'm sure there are so many men who would give their right arm to be in your situation where their wife comes to bed naked.
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Almost 14 years here and still going strong. Seeing my H naked, especially while bending over and washing his face or brushing his teeth, seeing his thingy hanging there... And, I can walk by him naked, get his attention (most of the time) and things happen.
Sounds to me like you just aren't into your wife sexually anymore and would prefer something different. Or, you're in a funk, depressed, stressed out, or feeling like "This is the only woman in my life for the REST of my life" and you're reacting to that.
How is the rest of your relationship outside of the bedroom? Are you bored with her as well in general?
Almost 14 years here and still going strong. Seeing my H naked, especially while bending over and washing his face or brushing his teeth, seeing his thingy hanging there... And, I can walk by him naked, get his attention (most of the time) and things happen.
Sorry, WWIU I couldn't help but giggle a little when I read this. I got a visual for some reason.
How is the rest of your relationship outside of the bedroom? Are you bored with her as well in general?
Guys--How long were you with your wife, gf, etc. when you lost interest in seeing her naked (i.e., seeing her naked didn't really arouse you)?
My wife is very attractive and I love her very much, but after 5 years together (and 3 months of marriage), I'd rather read a book than jump on her those times when she comes to bed naked. I can't seem to get her to understand this.
Are you my ex-H in disguise?
If you are no longer turned on by her, than you should not have married her. I went through the same thing when I married my ex-H. Soon after we got married he lost interest in having sex with me. He simply told me that it just wasn't that important to him anymore and he'd rather read or sleep. It crushed me and killed my self esteem. He refused to seek any sort of couseling with me or on his own. He said we were married now and that that was just how it was going to be for now on. He said there was nothing he could do about it.
After 8 years of living like that, I finally had enough and left him. After I left he finally went to see a counselor and asked me to come back and try again. I couldn't. Whatever love I still had left for him wasn't enough to make me want to put forth the effort.
If you want your marriage to work you need to figure out what is wrong with you? Its not natural or normal to suddenly lose interest in sex with your partner. Its a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
Sorry, WWIU I couldn't help but giggle a little when I read this. I got a visual for some reason.
That's okay. It is funny.
I do that so our sex life, attraction doesn't get stale. I do it to get his attention (in a healthy fun way, not in a "HEY LOOK AT ME NOW you're ignoring me" way) and I also vaccuum naked in the summer when it's hot. It's those little things that just make a big difference.
So, Chris, what are YOU doing to better your sex life? Are you fulfilling your wife's needs too? I mean, who knows, maybe she looks at you as well and is turned off.
Either way, you two need to talk, go to couples therapy or a sex therapist. Let her know how you feel and hopefully together a solution can be put into place.
OMG I feel so sorry for your wife...I bet it'd CRUSH her if she knew. Did you feel like this before you married her or did you realise this the other day?
Perhaps you're simply not in love with her in the "true" way. You just confirmed my fear about all men...augh...
Are you not aroused simply by seeing your wife naked any more, or are not not interested in sex any more?
My wife is not shy about her body, so I see her naked in lots of non-sexual situations, such as getting dressed, changing, massages, etc. So simply seeing her naked is not enough to get me aroused. It's what she does when she gets in the mood that turns me on, not what she's wearing or not wearing.
So are you still interrested in sex with your wife, but you need a little foreplay first? Are you turned on by porn and/or ther women? Or are you not interested in ex at all at this point?
it could be just a phase
if you continue to mastubate i suggest laying off or even quitting it all together ......at least for awhile... maybe your depleted
Having sex with the same woman every night is like eating the same meal every night. Sooner or later it's just going to get unappetizing, even if it was your favorite meal at one time.
Women can't seem to understand this. Perhaps for them it's different. Men are hardwired to want variety in the bodies they bang. I'm convinced that women just can't wrap their minds around this important point.
Having sex with the same woman every night is like eating the same meal every night. Sooner or later it's just going to get unappetizing, even if it was your favorite meal at one time.
Women can't seem to understand this. Perhaps for them it's different. Men are hardwired to want variety in the bodies they bang. I'm convinced that women just can't wrap their minds around this important point.
Have you tried different glasses to look at same woman?
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Last edited by lonelybird; 22nd August 2007 at 6:54 AM.
Guys--How long were you with your wife, gf, etc. when you lost interest in seeing her naked (i.e., seeing her naked didn't really arouse you)?
My wife is very attractive and I love her very much, but after 5 years together (and 3 months of marriage), I'd rather read a book than jump on her those times when she comes to bed naked. I can't seem to get her to understand this.
Well, I have this odd aversion to necrophelia... so in my opinion you should be attracted to your wife until there is some kind of post-mordem situation. And if your still attracted after that... I'd think your wierd... but I suppose its ok.
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Sorry, WWIU I couldn't help but giggle a little when I read this. I got a visual for some reason. 
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