How many of us have experienced core-shaking, earth-moving, heart stopping love?
..Kind of like what you see in the movies. The kind of passion and love for someone that could possibly move mountains and stop rivers flowing?
I belive there are different degrees of love and this would be the ultimate level. I don't think we all feel this passionate about everyone we love throughout life. Some people may never find this type of love..
So has anyone experienced this kind of ultimate passion and love?
No, and I haven't seen it in the movies either. Or real life, for that matter. Sometimes I can empathise with the Gordon Gekko view of love: "An illusion created to stop people jumping out of windows". I'm not that cynical, but still waiting to be convinced by actual evidence it exists at that kind of earth-shaking level.
I think when love is at that level, it's obsession and dependence. The ultimate level would be to learn to love somebody for who he is, when the initial infatuation wears out.
I thought i did, felt it, and it was somewhat returned for a little bit.. then all of sudden out of nowhere it changed for no apparent reason and then it just became torture. never knew i'd ever feel that way about someone again and get screwed over all over again.....i guess im a slow learner.
I did last year and it was everything that I saw in the movies and the experiences rivaled every romantic novel that I ever read. He seemed as if he was into it at first, but I asked for more and he completely vanished. I was crushed. I still miss him, but I thankfully I am not hurting as much anymore.
On a scale of 1-10, that was a 10. It was the sweetest and yet the most painful love that I have every experienced.
ME!
A scale of 1-10 I say it ranked 99
Still have it.
The earth shattering part is that "In Love" state.
This phase passes and is followed with something deeper. A knowledge that forever exists.
It seems that this kind of love is always accompanied with pain. It is usually a love for someone who didn't love back with the same intensity. May be the challenge makes it so intense.
..Kind of like what you see in the movies. The kind of passion and love for someone that could possibly move mountains and stop rivers flowing?
Maybe at first (excitement phase).
How exciting to lose your breath & to have your heart pound at the sight of someone you love. And to have that person look back at you like they haven't seen you in months & to feel like it's only the 2 of u. Simply amazing. But from what I'd seen it usually phases out.
Got to love movie love.
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Our greatest battles are that with our own minds. ~Jameson Frank~
Yes it Phases out...
But it depends on how much you want to keep it.
The movies are there and they are for the most part silly. You see only the good stuff.... but we continue to watch them. To wish and dream. We may mock this kind of love, yet we still want it.
When you find this kind of love you can't just sit back and enjoy it. You have to fight hard to keep it. To know when it's okay to make a stand and to fight to hold on to what is yours!
We get comfortable in our relationships and stop doing what we did to attract that person.
That's the kind of love my wife and I experienced when we first started dating after five years of friendship. It hit both of us simultaneously. Amazingly enough, it lasted on that level for the better part of five years which is almost half the time we've been married.
Neither of us thought it was possible either but it was. We've since "settled-in" to the marriage and our relationship in which love still abounds but it's a bit more "sane" now. However, I'll never forget that five-year "rush" which, I truly believe, is a once-in-a-lifetime experience reserved for the very lucky.
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"Well, I've wrestled with reality for 35 years, Doctor, and I'm happy to state I finally won out over it."
I have but it was for somebody unattainable and it was pure torture. He was merely an acquaintance who I knew in college at the newspaper. He was a senior when I was a freshman. I became totally infatuated with him and that feeling lasted for five years, the greater part of which I never even saw him because he had graduated and moved away. Years later I had these vivid dreams about him, and when I woke up I knew with absolute certainty that he was the one and my life would be worthless if I couldn't be with him. It was the kind of profound faith that defies reason and I've never experienced before or since. I just KNEW. And yet it wasn't a shallow love. It had all the depth and nuance of the warm affinity you feel for somebody you've known all your life...with all the passion of a love-at-first-sight affair. That feeling is agonizing because it makes the rest of life look grey by contrast. It's like you've been living in a monochrome world but don't realize it until you suddenly step into color. I'll resist the urge to make a cheesy comparison to the Wizard of Oz or the Matrix. Of course it was never about him, it was about me. It freaks me out that I was able to feel all that for somebody who I barely knew. I'm sure some of you will contend that what I felt was different from what I would for somebody I knew well who reciprocated my feelings, but I disagree. I believe what determines the nature of any love is not the beloved, but the lover herself. Love is often a hodge-podge of feelings you've experienced in the past for different people in your life. It's very easy to transfer all those feelings to a new person, deserved or un-. Because when you love somebody and lose them or fall out of love, you may bury that feeling but it doesn't go away. It lies dormant, unattached until it finds a new object to cling to.
Somebody who loves too easily like me isn't healthy in the head. It's exhausting to be at the mercy of your emotions all the time.
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