People often refer to rebound relationships, but what exactly constitutes a rebound relationship? If you start dating a new person soon after a breakup is the new relationship automatically a rebound? When does a "rebound relationship" become just a relationship?
I ran in to an old acquaintance a couple of days ago, I haven't talked to her in a while. As we were catching up she asked if I was dating anyone and I told her that i was still w/ my bf and that we were living together, last time i talked to her I was seeing my current bf for a little under a month. Her reply was "Aww you ended up with your rebound" I wasn't sure if I should be insulted or not so I just nodded and said "yeah"
I started dating my current bf less than a month after a breakup of a 4 month relationship, we've been together about a year. Is he my rebound? Was he my rebound? I've never had two relationships so close back to back but I don't see why it's such a bad thing if you happen to meet someone you want to be with soon after ending an old relationship.
Rebound in my view is being with someone after a hard breakup.
Right, but what if that rebound relationship turns out to last years and years? Doesn't rebound only apply to a non serious dating relationship after a breakup?
A rebound is definitely a relationship that begins very shortly after a hard break-up...but it could go either way as far as how long it lasts. My parents divorced after 22 years of marriage, but mom had a new boyfriend within months, that ended up living with us a good 8 years. I think the reason she dumped him was because she did in fact realize he was a "rebound" for her...but my dad was the only real relationship she had, so I'm sure she didn't view it as rebound in the beginning...she probably didn't even know the meaning of the word.
And perhaps a rebound is simply a way to get over your ex, but it's still possible for it to evolve into a meaningful thing. But I think it's more likely for rebound situations to fade fast, as opposed to lasting. Then if you consider those who spend their whole lives moving from one person to the next without single time in between, basically everyone is a rebound to them, until they finally get one to last. But I've also thought of rebounds as being "meaningless" to the person going throug a break-up....if it's not actually meaningless, then perhaps it does not really fit the criteria for a rebound.
That's what I thought too, part of the reason why i was insulted when the girl referred to my bf as my 'rebound that lasted'
Ask your boyfriend. It's possible he got over his ex before he met you & by the time he did, he was ready for a REAL relationship. Not everyone uses people as rebounds.
But you never want to date someone right after they had a serious breakup. Most importantly if it was unexpected. Wait a bit.
Ask your boyfriend. It's possible he got over his ex before he met you & by the time he did, he was ready for a REAL relationship. Not everyone uses people as rebounds.
But you never want to date someone right after they had a serious breakup. Most importantly if it was unexpected. Wait a bit.
I agree, if someone going through a break-up is pursuing you, I say proceed with caution!
Allina, my most serious relationship of 3.5 years was the result of a rebound. I had been dating a dude for about a year, found out he cheated on me AND got the girl pregnant and took a quick trip up to Tahoe to marry her. I was upset, to say the least. I turned to a young UC Davis frat boy to ease my pain. I wanted to spend time with someone who was "fun," not serious, cute, playful, allathatjazz. I fell for him though, hard. He was definitely my rebound from the guy before though.
I think "rebound" is just a term for what causes you to enter a new relationship, but it doesn't define the relationship itself.
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Ask your boyfriend. It's possible he got over his ex before he met you & by the time he did, he was ready for a REAL relationship. Not everyone uses people as rebounds.
Wha??? I think you misread my original post. I was dating a guy for 4 months, I was a rebound to HIM. Soon after we broke up I met my current bf. A girl referred to my bf as MY rebound because I got together with him shorter after ending a relationship. I think my current bf is much more than a rebound, no matter how soon after a breakup me and him got together.
Wha??? I think you misread my original post. I was dating a guy for 4 months, I was a rebound to HIM. Soon after we broke up I met my current bf. A girl referred to my bf as MY rebound because I got together with him shorter after ending a relationship. I think my current bf is much more than a rebound, no matter how soon after a breakup me and him got together.
Allina, my most serious relationship of 3.5 years was the result of a rebound. I had been dating a dude for about a year, found out he cheated on me AND got the girl pregnant and took a quick trip up to Tahoe to marry her. I was upset, to say the least. I turned to a young UC Davis frat boy to ease my pain. I wanted to spend time with someone who was "fun," not serious, cute, playful, allathatjazz. I fell for him though, hard. He was definitely my rebound from the guy before though.
I think "rebound" is just a term for what causes you to enter a new relationship, but it doesn't define the relationship itself.
Wow SG I'm sorry you had to go through that I'm not too sure about the second part though. I think there is a difference between seeing someone to distract yourself from the pain of a breakup and seeing someone because you like them, despite of timing.
I started dating my current bf less than a month after a breakup of a 4 month relationship, we've been together about a year. Is he my rebound? Was he my rebound?
No he wasn't cause the prior relationship was a very short one. Rebounds only occur after you get out of a long and serious relationship.
It's funny to think of it that way. Looking back now it cracks me up that it even lasted 4 months, even more so that I was really upset over the breakup fr like 2 weeks
It's funny to think of it that way. Looking back now it cracks me up that it even lasted 4 months, even more so that I was really upset over the breakup fr like 2 weeks
now if you breakup with this clown you're living with now then the next guy may be a "rebound"...
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I'm not too sure about the second part though. I think there is a difference between seeing someone to distract yourself from the pain of a breakup and seeing someone because you like them, despite of timing.
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