Ok, here's the story.. My bf and I have been dating for 1.5yrs. I trusted my bf a lot up until I accidently found something out about him that really made me upset. I just about broke up with him, but I just couldn't because the rest of his qualities are so great, and he's a great person. That was 6 months ago.
Now, I find it hard to trust anything he says, and I've turned into this super jealous person that is trying to find out everything. I've signed into his online accounts, etc. I told him I snooped on him right away, because I am a very honest person, and I would feel wrong going behind someone's back & hiding it. I know, oxymoron, but yeah. He didn't get mad.
Anyways, he seems to always bond with girls, and wherever he goes, he makes friends with girls a lot. He went away for two weeks, and then came back. I was having a bad day when he came back, because thoughts of the issue from 6 months ago were haunting me. I asked him why he had to lie about things, and how does he just lie so easily? (he lies to his parents sometimes & i've noticed how it's so easy for him... I could never do that). So he told me he was going to try and be honest.
He told me that while he was away, he was staying in a girl's room with her, but nothing happened. I asked him to tell me if he has ever kissed a girl while we've been together. He said, "No, but honestly, if I have, I wouldn't be able to tell you. But, I haven't."
I was like, that doesn't make sense, because now I'll never know if he does do that. I try to trust him, but it's so hard now. He even said he has lied to me so many times, he thinks it's compulsive lying. I was sooo happy that he was being honest with me, but at the same time, how am I going to trust anything?
What do you think of this? Do you think it was disrespectful of him to sleep in a girl's room... even though nothing happened? pls tell me some advice! thanks
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