[cloud92000]

Iv been seeing this guy for a bit and everything was going perfectly untill Sat.
He finished it Saturday because he said i had hurt him alot by messing him around and making him feel small etc.
I can honestly say i havnt been messing him around and i really like him but he wont listen to me, he says that iv hurt him so in his mind its over.
Hes a really stubborn guy and dosnt give in easily so how can get him back?

I tried to talk to him last night but he was really blunt and nasty with me, he said that he stopped having feelings for me over a week ago yet on Friday night he said he wanted me more than ever and wanted to meet up.

Im confused

[oppath]

I'm confused too.

Could you explain further the reasons he felt you were messing with him? You're leaving out a big part of the story.

[peace_pipe]

Originally Posted by cloud92000

Iv been seeing this guy for a bit and everything was going perfectly untill Sat.
He finished it Saturday because he said i had hurt him alot by messing him around and making him feel small etc.
I can honestly say i havnt been messing him around and i really like him but he wont listen to me, he says that iv hurt him so in his mind its over.
Hes a really stubborn guy and dosnt give in easily so how can get him back?

I tried to talk to him last night but he was really blunt and nasty with me, he said that he stopped having feelings for me over a week ago yet on Friday night he said he wanted me more than ever and wanted to meet up.

Im confused

What were his reasons that he gave? Did he give examples of why he thinks you were just messing with him?

I may be able to help you with this. It is strange, but I just fell out with a girl I was dating over the same thing.

[hardcase]

Originally Posted by cloud92000

Iv been seeing this guy for a bit and everything was going perfectly untill Sat.
He finished it Saturday because he said i had hurt him alot by messing him around and making him feel small etc.
I can honestly say i havnt been messing him around and i really like him but he wont listen to me, he says that iv hurt him so in his mind its over.
Hes a really stubborn guy and dosnt give in easily so how can get him back?

I tried to talk to him last night but he was really blunt and nasty with me, he said that he stopped having feelings for me over a week ago yet on Friday night he said he wanted me more than ever and wanted to meet up.

Im confused

Well I'm confused too. You can honestly say you haven't messed around on him....so how exactly did you hurt him? That was your title...You said that YOU hurt him...not he is hurt because he THINKS I messed around.

Are you telling the whole truth here?

[cloud92000]

Ok i did cut it short.
We started seeing eachother and as he feelings grew for me he started accusing me of only wanting sex (even though we never did properly!).
About a week ago we got very intimate and went to have sex and half way through he said he just couldnt do it and got really upset!? He was still hard and everything so i didnt understand.
I left that night and assumed it was a problem with me. He then said he was serious about me and wanted to carry on seeing me, so i agreed.
I went round his again and half way through sex again he did the same as before.
He was so mad with himself but said he didnt know why it was happening.
I got a bit drunk friday night and confronted him about it and he got really angry and upset.
He said he wanted to be with me and i couldnt understand how a guy who wanted a relationship with me and still wanted to see me couldnt have sex with me.
He then turned around and said that i had hurt him and now he being really nasty too me.
He then said i was ****ing him around

[jcster]

It sounds like he has some serious problems surrounding sex. After 2 botched tries I don't think you were out of line saying something to him about it. I think he's embarrassed and trying to turn the blame around to you. You need to ask yourself if this is something that you are prepared to deal with. Since you said he had no problem with his erection, then it has a good chance of being a mental problem - and that could be very hard to work around. If it were me, I'd apologize for upsetting him and then move on.

[fray718]

Originally Posted by peace_pipe

What were his reasons that he gave? Did he give examples of why he thinks you were just messing with him?

I may be able to help you with this. It is strange, but I just fell out with a girl I was dating over the same thing.

Can you explain more bout you and this girl?

[Poboy]

cloud92000 , i think he isnt looking for a sexual relation right now just an emotional one because either
1. he hasnt done it before and is shy or
2. he hasnt reached that place where he is comfortable to have sex with you and still feels that you two just be in the relationship emotionally and not physically.

i think you need to talk to him regarding this and what is he looking for in this relationship.