Husband wants a big party with beer & porn... and I'm upset!!
Apologies for the length of this but I am really really worried by my husband's idea.
My husband told me he is holding a lads' party - in our house. He said the party rules are - no clothes, just your underwear, and bring booze and porn too, plus DVD's as well - the ultimate lads night out.
He's advertised it in the local paper and on the Net too.He says our house is large enough - which, to be honest, it is a large house.
However he says that all his friends are coming and that everyone will be in just their underwear in another room in the house - even him. He also said no women are invited either, and the party involves booze, loud music, cigs, and porn.
He said there's somewhere for them to get undressed as well in our house.He also expects me to make the food for them, and supply the booze as well (he's ordered $400 worth of beer off the Internet).
I've told him he can't have this party, as it will upset the neighbours and ruin our house, but he insists that it will go ahead and that I can't tell him what to do.
I feel upset, and have told him so - but he really insists on having this huge bash in our house.I can't understand why a load of strange men I barely know want to party in just their undies in OUR house.
What can I do to stop my husband from going ahead with this??I always knew he was an adventurous man, but this is probably taking it too far.I'm worried about what the neighbours will think, and also my friends as well.
I should add that when he advertised it on the Net, it was on his company's website, and the men are his work colleagues (all 40 + of them!), so they don't appear to be strangers (he told me they're just work colleagues who he advertised it to!)
The porn in question appears to be DVDs of semi-nude females (e.g. Malene Espensen, Keeley Hazell, Nicolette Sheridan etc. etc,) and lads' mags.
He said it's just a guys' night out (or night in for him), and it'd be good. He also said the men are his friends from work, he's very popular there, he says! He told me the guys from work are looking forward to this huge bash.
He keeps insisting that it will happen, and that everyone's paid up for this night out.He still expects me to make all the food and drink for them - and I've told him no, this is unacceptable but he insists it should go ahead.He's already ordered $400 worth of booze, $600 worth of nachos, cheese and chilli dip, and other food stuff.
I did my research, and it does, on the face of it, appear to be a genuine guys' night out-type party.I asked him why he wants to do this, but he says it's just him and his workmates having some laddish fun - and no-one should worry.Really, though, wouldn't you find it a bit odd that a load of men are partying in nothing more than their undies??
I still can't understand why a load of strange men I barely know want to party in just their undies in OUR house - it makes me feel worried. Isn't this a bit of an odd party to have, whatever the reason??I've tried and tried discussing it with him, but to no avail. He now says the party will happen next weekend, how can I deal with this party/stop him from doing this??
I feel stressed, worried and upset - and also embarrassed about what the neighbours and my friends will think of it.
If your husband/boyfriend planned something like this, how would you deal with it??All advice is appreciated.
Last edited by flower360; 20th May 2007 at 7:02 PM..
Certainly I have to say this is odd and I have never heard of such a thing. What kind of company does he work for? I can't imagine that a lot of guys are going to be into this, especially the underwear only part.
Is it possible your husband has some closeted homosexual tendencies and wants a chance to see his male coworkers in their underwear with erections?
I'm not making a joke here.
I would be concerned if I were you. I just have to say this post makes me glad that none of my exes were really into porn.
I will be curious to hear the other guys' opinion on this, if this is really the ultimate bash for guys. I would try to encourage him to 1. add clothes and 2. make it a sports party, watch baseball or something.
Last edited by green-eyed beauty; 20th May 2007 at 7:31 PM..
The only undies thing is weird. If it wasn't for that I'd say roll you eyes, refuse to make any food, and go spend a weekend at the spa. Actually, if he's spending $1000 on his friends, then you should treat a couple of you your gfs to a weekend at the spa as well. But with the only undies thing; that's just weird and I have no helpful response.
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Why in the world would they want to be in their underwear? If it weren't for that, I'd say he must be missing his college fraternity parties...beer, nachos, and porn...but the underwear is throwing me off.
Why would straight men want to see other men in their underwear? Why would they be comfortable around each other in their underwear?
I can totally understand why you're having a hard time with this. PLUS, he wants YOU to cook for this event? Did he ask you to, or TELL you to? If he's going to be a freak, let him do all the preparation AND the clean up afterwards.
And, frankly, if I were you, I'd be setting up some hidden cameras around the house to tape whatever is going on.
For some reason, this post reminds me of when Tucker Max and Co. decided to pay Loveshack a visit.
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Maybe you should also invite some family members. Like your Dad and Brothers if you have any.
I would invite anyone that he might be embarrassed by. Stay for the party and have the police intentionally called for anything that would make the party a public record for the divorce case.
For some reason, this post reminds me of when Tucker Max and Co. decided to pay Loveshack a visit.
What?! Where??
If your husband is not playing a joke on you, I think that you have every right to worry, and honestly, even if he's playing a joke on you, you should still worry a little bit.
It was a while ago. The threads they were posting were outrageous. AFAIK, they have all been deleted on this forum, but you can get the idea from reading the thread on TM's forums. Just do a Google search for:
Maybe you should also invite some family members. Like your Dad and Brothers if you have any.
I would invite anyone that he might be embarrassed by. Stay for the party and have the police intentionally called for anything that would make the party a public record for the divorce case.
Definitely, Record the event in anyway possible.
If he is advertizing on the Net then pretty much anyone can go... I would definitely ask a male friend of mine to attend and even take pictures with his cell phone...
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