[SadandConfusedWA]

I'm just wondering if MM is more likely to cheat if his wife has let herself go and I don't mean just getting older, but gaining large amounts of weight, not taking care of what she wears etc.

Please don't flame me, I'm genuinly curious since men are very visual if that is a factor in cheating.

I have seen my xmm's wife in the grocery store but neither of them saw me.
I thought he was with his mother (except that she is dead!).
I nticed that they never communicated and were very distant while doing the shopping.
That pleased me because if I had seen them cuddling up and holding hands, that would have been like a red flag.
I am not boasting but she was dowdy, old fashioned and had short grey hair and no make up. (Yes I did get quite close at one stage). In short she was a back end of a bus.
Most (not all) mm have mistresses who are far better looking than their wives and who don't just lie on their backs like a sack of potatoes.
So some wives who let themselves deteriorate, invite the OW into their husband's lives...

[Melissa277]

Are you kidding me? I've been lurking around here for a while ... just reading and comprehending. But this post has finally prompted me to respond. My husband's "OW" was ugly, old and looked like she had been rode hard and put away wet. Do you really think that all OW are beautiful and all wives aren't?

[SadandConfusedWA]

Relax. I'm not even the OW. I'm not involved or have ever been involved with MM.

The OW was ugly? Then your hubby is just sad dirty cheater that will F##% anything that moves. I'm so sorry you married him.

Next.

[Lizzie60]

Originally Posted by SadandConfusedWA

I'm just wondering if MM is more likely to cheat if his wife has let herself go and I don't mean just getting older, but gaining large amounts of weight, not taking care of what she wears etc.

Please don't flame me, I'm genuinly curious since men are very visual if that is a factor in cheating.

I really don't know the wives except for one I saw on a picture... I don't think it has anything to do with 'beauty'.

But I agree that if the woman (goes for men too btw) gained a lot of weight, doesn't take care of herself, it could be a huge factor for the partner to cheat.

[SadandConfusedWA]

I didn't mean beauty as such, but huge change in appearance since when they married to now. Not just the normal process of getting older and gaining a few pounds.

[Melissa277]

I am relaxed. I'm just sick and tired of men cheating because
a) their wives just don't understand them
b) they're bored with their sex life at home
c) they don't feel appreciated
d) their wives let themselves go
e) blah, blah, blah.

In my opinion, they're all just losers and so are the women they're involved with. I know my family was destroyed by my husband's affair. And yes, my husband is a dirty cheater and liar who makes me want to puke ... especially after I saw what he was screwing. In my husband's case, he claims she "just wouldn't leave him alone." Yeah, whatever.

And, if you're not an "OW" why would you even ask that question?

Next.

[LucreziaBorgia]

Looks rarely have much to do with it - there are exceptions to that, of course - but I think it has more to do with how OW makes MM feel about himself than any particular physical attraction he has for her. Any woman can be a good listener and hand out great ego strokes/sex/blowjobs/kink. That's more or less what he is looking for, and a woman doesn't have to be particularly attractive for that to happen.

[Impudent Oyster]

Camilla Parker Bowles/Princess Diana. 'Nuff said.

[Impudent Oyster]

Christie Brinkley is, IMO, one of the most beautiful women on the planet and her dopey husband screwed a teenaged nobody who couldn't hold a candle to Christie.

[lindya]

I think it's less to do with wives "letting themselves go", more to do with opportunities (ones that promise discretion) presenting themselves.

[Ariadne]

Hi,

In my case I believe I was better looking than the MM's wife.

I'm genuinly curious since men are very visual if that is a factor in cheating.

I think the attraction helped, but the reason why he cheated was because I was such a pest about being with him, in my opinion.

If it was all up to him it probably wouldn't have happened.

Ariadne
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[norajane]

Originally Posted by SadandConfusedWA

The OW was ugly? Then your hubby is just sad dirty cheater that will F##% anything that moves. I'm so sorry you married him.

So if the OW was beautiful, then he would have been justified and not just a sad, dirty cheater that will f*ck anything that moves?

Maybe that's not what you meant, but that's how your statement comes across.

[pricillia]

it really does not matter what the OW looks like just that she is getting some attention from the man... and you need to figure out why.

I honestly believe that beauty comes from within...

You can be smokin, but your attitude could stink and well it can lessen the way someone sees you.

[VinaAmez]

I don't know. If I was ever cheated on I would hope it was someone who's ugly.

Sorry I'm just being honest.