Update! (Worth your read--I promise!)

Cossette4 · 18th May 2007, 2:35 AM

So here's the update:

I'm so over this! (So over it in fact that I'm not even going to bother typing out the long tragic story of my breakup...you can look back in the 100 or so previous posts where I endlessly mulled through it if you are curious).

It's been about 10 months since it happened, and I honestly feel FREE. I DON'T think about this every day---I never thought that would happen. I thought I'd wake up every morning for the rest of my life with that sick sad feeling and then battle it throughout the day and guess what--I DON'T. EVERYONE IS RIGHT--IT REALLY DOES GO AWAY!!!!!! (It's so funny how you logically know it will go away but emotionally you fool yourself into thinking it's there forever and then one day, logic kicks emotion's a** and you just wake up and laugh!)

I am so happy right now. I live in a great city. I have a fabulous new apartment. I love my friends. I met a guy and he's the most adorable person EVER. We are still in that talking stage so I have no idea if it's going anywhere, but it's so fun to get those butterflies again! It's amazing to realize you can have that giddy feeling for someone else. You think of them at night instead of your breakup. And he's a hell of a lot better at having a conversation than my ex ever was! We are on the same page intelligence-wise (something I always battled with my ex) and it's amazing.

And tonight, as I was hanging out with one of my friends laughing about randomness that happened throughout the day, I get a text message FROM THE EX. (If you read my previous posts, you'll know that we had absolutely no contact 7 months and then he texted me out of the blue on April 9th telling me, "Call me sometime.") Well, you'll all be proud to know that I DID NOT CALL HIM and look what happened--5 weeks later, HE'S SENDING ME ANOTHER TEXT that basically says the same thing! "Hope you are doing well...Call me sometime."

Well guess what EX BOYFRIEND, I AM DOING WELL!

WELL WITHOUT YOU!

I swear to you guys--It gets better!! Hang in there! I don't want to turn into a cliche motivational speaker poster, but seriously, you will be okay. You will be better than okay! You'll be stronger, wiser, more confident, more skeptical of empty promises, and a really great person for someone who really deserves you.

Thank you to everyone who helped me realize a lot of this stuff!

(Okay pretty sure I exceeded the limit of exclamation marks allowed in a post).

Make the most of what comes and the least of what goes.

~Cossette

jusified · 18th May 2007, 2:51 AM

Hi Cossette,

It is great to hear. I myself is getting to that stage also. I wish you the best in the future.

jus

Trialbyfire · 18th May 2007, 3:06 AM

Hahahaha...I think you have room for one more exclamation mark!!!

Congrats Cossette, yes it does get better and better and there's life afterwards. Glad to hear you're doing great.

confucious · 18th May 2007, 1:05 PM

You are so right about it all, Cossette. I am glad you found yourself and your happiness again, you are an inspiration to us all. Best of luck!!!!!

Island Girl · 18th May 2007, 1:24 PM

Glad you posted Cosette!

For all of us that keep saying NC -- but we get get push back. This kind of success story that shows what can happen if you just end the vicious circle of getting sucked in to all the crap is SO IMPORTANT to all who are in bad situations and just need to move on.

Congratulations again and again!

I'm so happy you are happy.

sb129 · 18th May 2007, 1:51 PM

Good for you Cosette!

It does go away, and I am really happy to hear you have moved on.