[ross37]

i need help fast!

So me and my gf have been dating for 4 months and we have just moved into an apt together for the summer before we go back to college. She went up back to our college to tryout for colorguard (which is 3 hours away) and i stayed back at home. She went with some of her friends who are also trying out for colorguard and they stayed in a frat house overnight because one of her friends is "talking" to one of the guys who lives in the frat house. So of course they were drinking and my gf was texting me the whole time about how she missed me and such. At one point she said her friends left her and she was all alone with frat guys (a majority of them drunk, im sure) and she told me this and i got real mad about this. Now she thinks i dont trust her. I do completely trust her, i just dont trust any one else. She says that she knows i trust her but i dont know. How do i make her see that i trust her and what do i have to do to prove to her that i trust her?

[halfarock]

This really isn’t a trust issue. It is a manifestation of your insecurity. It’s not that you don’t trust her, it’s that you don’t trust your relationship with her. At some level you have to know that this is true. If you expect to carry on with her for the rest of your life, you’ll just have to accept the fact that there are going to be times when she will be alone with other men. If your relationship with her is strong there isn’t much of anything that someone else can do to change that. Just try hitting on a happily married woman and you’ll see what I mean.