[john 07]

So many of you guys know I was in a more than 6 year relationship with my ex GF. a week later, shes with another guy i know. Many people who i talked to said that for my ex to jump into a relationship that quick does not really last. I know my ex is not on a rebound b/c honestly things werent that great for the past 3 months before break up. or maybe she is. She also seems bappy with everything even though literally all of her close friends arnt even talking to her for what she did. She sacraficed so much for this new guy. i dont know what wrong with her. They have been togather for about 7 weeks now. We broke up 2 months ago. I have been doing NC for 2 weeks now and she recently texted my saying she misses me. I dont get it why she would do that. My ex and I have so many unresolved problems just hanging. We were the bestest of friends and I dont know why she would sacrafice/risk that. honestly, I do want to give it another try in the future when I become a better person. Why is jumping into another relationship after another not last?

[Lauriebell82]

If you don't mind me asking, why did the two of you break up? If it was a bad breakup, maybe she is trying to forget about it by going out with someone else. That's usually what happens, especially after someone has been in a long term relationship. It is hard to be single after being in a long relationship so maybe she is trying to fill the void that your break up left her with.

I don't understand the text message about her missing you. Important relationship info should be talked about in person or at least over the phone. Sending you a text message is kind of cowardly on her part. And what about her new bf? This girl sounds like trouble, and she is def. messing with your head when you are trying to heal from your breakup. Let her go, don't respond or take her back, just move on with your life. You'll be glad you did.

[john 07]

^ she broke up with me b/c I wasnt as affectionate. She once told me we are getting no where. This was something we could have fixed. She wanted me to change into a better person. Shes mad these days b.c i started to change after the break up. I understand I have some faults but its something both of us could have worked on. Things only got ugly after she found a new guy only a couple days after our break up. By the way they were friends before my break up. He was really her only friend on campus

[oppath]

I feel for you...and I feel for her new guy as well. She's not letting you get over her, and it is going to take some time to get over her. See, she knows you haven't fully moved on, and she probably hasn't fully moved on either, but likes having you in the background to feed her ego. She likely does miss you -- you were together a long time -- but that doesn't mean she wants to be with you. She wants to absolve her guilt over dumping you. She wants to feel like you miss her too so she feels better about herself for hurting you.

Saying I miss you is a total mind ****! Don't worry about the new guy; it might work, it might not work. She likely is trying to force herself to get over you, but it also might work out. It is not a reflection of you that she moved on so soon. It is a reflection of her. She hasn't matured enough to know that it isn't fair to the new guy NOT to get into a relationship -- which is totally different than dating -- because she isn't ready yet. And no, I doubt she's ready yet, even if the breakup with you was looming for a couple months. This does not mean she hasn't move on with you, it just means she'll probably **** the other guy over in addition to ****ing with your head!

And if she is in a new relationship, an official relationship, even if it is young, it is disrespectful to him and their relationship to text you that she misses you. It is also disrespectful to you.