[gleason]

due to obligations of an elderly parent, plus my own work load, etc., life became quite overwhelming. i am sure i was not as attentive as i could have been to my relationship, but i felt that was the one area i was able to relax in, and thought it could sustain the pressure. after 6 yrs., we had a long distance relationship due to his move, however, visited every 2-3 mo. out of the blue, i got slammed with an e-mail stating he is not "there" anymore, no love, etc. weeks earlier, he professed love.
i just endured the loss of a family member and am quite vulnerable..and now this mess...10 yrs we shared.
my situation is that i was only able to reach contact briefly 1 time 2wks later(after many left phone mess. to try to make sense of this). i was given very superficial reasons...weather differences, etc. and then another contact-brief 5wks. later..again, i was told that he just gave up. never to my face did i hear of no love, or stop calling, or anything in depth. obviously there was a female present and he stated he and his G.F. are getting ready to leave somewhere, he did agree to call later so that i may have the opportunity to express what was on my mind. no call. no nothing, no letter, no phone mess. he deleted my name from e-mail. why is my question..why would someone just run like this? why wouldn't they at keast give one time in a call to settle it, why just ignore the numerous calls, mess. why would someone want to leave on those terms after so many yrs.? guilt? i thought, then why mention a G.F., intentional hurt? fear of stirring up suppressed feelings? he had stated long ago that he will harden his feelings to downplay his emotuions.
it has been greater than 6 wks now, and nothing...he will not reply to any form of requests.
i am having a difficult time moving forward, i believe there were misunderstandings, miscommunications, things i feel i need to express for ME..and know he is hearing me. i am having difficulties also due to the fact of the many years spent together and for this casual avoidance..it makes it very difficult to make sense of it and try to move ahead.
ui cannot imagine avoiding someone i knew was truly hurting and all they request is a phone call.....help...your thoughts?????????????????