Ok i am a 34 year old woman & not happy with dating men & having my number keep going up. I have never slept with someone I wasn't in a relationship with until last weekend. I never in my life had a 1 night stand.
I have been with 12 men, I always was in a relationship with someone, throughout my life. I always have a boyfriend.
I have dated this guy before fooled around, knew him for 17 years & we ran into each other last week & ended up sleeping together.
I don't know why i am so bothered that my number is now 12!
I have had friends in high school that slept with everyone.
Why does this bother me so much? Why am i so hung up on the number?
Just curious ladies, how old r u & how many partners have u had?
I am 40 and same as you, only have had sex with men that I was in monogomous relationships with ( well, after a few crazy flings in college, pre-aids days)
I don't like the fact that my # would go up, because I have found more damaged men than I would have liked, so I STILL only have sex in serious relationships and convienetly have " forgotten" my number, LOL
( and HERE is another area where men and woman will never be equal, men inflate their number, woman deflate it !)
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I'm 38, and have been with 6 men. All of whom I was in a serious R with. My number may be on the "low" side....but I got married at 17, and was with him for almost 20 yrs.
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Melony -
So u know how I am feeling. I just hate that all these guys has so many issues. I wish I knew it right up front & not afterwards. haha Yes u r so right. For men to have alot they are studs for us, women we are easy haha.
I don't know why i am 34 years old & this bothers me. I guess cause I always thought i'd be married by 25. I don't know why having sex with my friend that I knew for 17 years is bothering me, its not like he was a complete stranger or anything. I must be PMS'ing haha
Any of my friends would be bragging that they slept with such a good looking guy & here i am upset over it hahaha. I guess since it was the first guy that i am not in a relationship with.
Kwo - Do i have this right......
u got married at 17 & was with him for 20 years & had 6 partners?
17 plus 20 is 37...
Melony -
So u know how I am feeling. I just hate that all these guys has so many issues. I wish I knew it right up front & not afterwards. haha Yes u r so right. For men to have alot they are studs for us, women we are easy haha.
I don't know why i am 34 years old & this bothers me. I guess cause I always thought i'd be married by 25. I don't know why having sex with my friend that I knew for 17 years is bothering me, its not like he was a complete stranger or anything. I must be PMS'ing haha
Any of my friends would be bragging that they slept with such a good looking guy & here i am upset over it hahaha. I guess since it was the first guy that i am not in a relationship with.
Kwo - Do i have this right......
u got married at 17 & was with him for 20 years & had 6 partners?
17 plus 20 is 37...
On the positive side, I WILL say this : After breaking up with a long term BF that I had a good sexual relationship with, I would always do the self pity trip of " Now I'm going to be with some 3 second guy with a 2 inch dick who doesn't believe in oral sex, woe is me"......and....they keep getting better, so....
At least thats one " break up" delusion I've put behind me !!!!
Kwo - Do i have this right......
u got married at 17 & was with him for 20 years & had 6 partners?
17 plus 20 is 37...
LOL Well, partially right. First, I typoed, that should read 5, not 6. Didn't catch it before. And to further clarify, one partner wasn't an actual R, I was raped at 16.
I had a bf at 16, and was with him. met and married my husband. I said "nearly 20 yrs". We were actually seperated at 18 yrs, and the divorce wasn't final until 20. I had a R after leaving my M, (turns out he was M himself, so I ended that), then dated another man for 6 months. And am with my current SO.
KWO
Oh ok i see. I am so sorry to hear about the rape! I am sorry if i brought up any bad memories for u. I apoligize.
I wish i was married for 20 years! It sucks dating all the time & meeting guys that turn out to be jerks! I wish they all came with a warning label ahhaah-
KWO
Oh ok i see. I am so sorry to hear about the rape! I am sorry if i brought up any bad memories for u. I apoligize.
I wish i was married for 20 years! It sucks dating all the time & meeting guys that turn out to be jerks! I wish they all came with a warning label ahhaah-
No problem, it was a very long time ago.
And, the M wasn't so great, he turned abusive. I stayed for the kids. So...I envy you somewhat.
Damn, I am always amazed that most people on LS have slept with more people than people I have met in my life who I even would have considered being in a relationship and sleeping with.
I must be one of the weird, picky ones.
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