I am struggling to come to terms with the fact my fiancee kissed another man. We had been going through a very rough time and she was crying a lot. During this period she kissed a colleague. I have not been perfect and in the past have held hands and stroked another girls ass and on another occasion have stroked a second girls leg. When i did these things i was drunk but there was nothing wrong with our relationship. Are my indiscretions minor by comparison?

[starbuck59]

It seems there are issues in this relationship, possible on both sides. I don't know if it's a question of what's worst. You should both sit down and talk about it and get to why these things are happening. If they are happening now, they will happen later on especially if you get married.

[Diamonds&Rust]

Doesn't matter which is worse, matters whether the both of you are serious about fidelity, even when alcohol and/or doubt are involved.

Make sure you're clear on that before you marry, because that won't fix a thing.

[outofdarkness]

Originally Posted by Guest

I am struggling to come to terms with the fact my fiancee kissed another man. We had been going through a very rough time and she was crying a lot. During this period she kissed a colleague. I have not been perfect and in the past have held hands and stroked another girls ass and on another occasion have stroked a second girls leg. When i did these things i was drunk but there was nothing wrong with our relationship. Are my indiscretions minor by comparison?

It doesn't sound like you should pursue this R unless you two are willing to remain monogamous in every way, or at least be open and communicative if you don't plan to be..If you go any further, ie., engagement, marriage, you're headed for trouble...