[BlueSoul]

This may sound crazy, but I've forgotten how to make friends. In other words, how do you get aquainted with new people and make friends? You don't just randomly walk up to a person who you think are nice and start a conversation with a total stranger.

[quankanne]

I actually know someone who is quite good at doing that, but she's is truly a gregarious spirit and has a knack of putting people at ease. That's why I try to hang around her if I don't know anyone at social gatherings we happen to be at.

I've always found that ice-breakers, like a brief but sincere compliment, work well ... I've struck up many conversations in public restrooms just over nice clothes or jewelry (or even hair!), though this is probably a woman thing more than a guy thing.

you can also do the "do you know what time such and such is supposed to begin?" or "do you know there the blank is located?"

unless they're agitated or in a hurry, people don't mind chatting.

[Dadaal]

In this century people are glued to their computers, cellphones, video games, and on line virtual girsl/boyfriends. Social gatherings are nowdays disappearing and people are completely transformed by the technology. In the near future, we'll be all on line 100%. Perhaps, that's rather fallacy composition.

My piece of advice for you is to keep and develop friedship with your faceless fellows of "LOVESHACKERs".

[Tony T]

Originally Posted by BlueSoul

This may sound crazy, but I've forgotten how to make friends. In other words, how do you get aquainted with new people and make friends? You don't just randomly walk up to a person who you think are nice and start a conversation with a total stranger.

Why not?

People are at home in front of their TV or computer because nobody will walk up to them and say hello and talk to them. There are a LOT of lonely people. So if some give you a crazy look at ignore you, they're just shy, in a bad mood, or were just told they had venereal disease...don't mess with those.

You'd be surprised how many wonderful people are waiting for you to introduce yourself...but it won't happen while you're signed onto the World Wide Web. www.getoffyourbuttandgetoutandmeetpeople.com (If you go there, it'll say server not found because they are all at the mall meeting lots of people....hahaha)

[BlueSoul]

Originally Posted by Dadaal

In this century people are glued to their computers, cellphones, video games, and on line virtual girsl/boyfriends. Social gatherings are nowdays disappearing and people are completely transformed by the technology. In the near future, we'll be all on line 100%. Perhaps, that's rather fallacy composition.

My piece of advice for you is to keep and develop friedship with your faceless fellows of "LOVESHACKERs".

Well, maybe if I'm best known enough to the whole forum that is, lol. like kittykat, graig, toney_t, etc. I'll literally be anyone's friend (as a loveshacker) if only they come to me. Anyways, I rather make new friends(like you guys, you seem to be nice people), anyone from weston-super-mare?

[geekpink]

I'll be your friend BlueSoul

I have the exact same problem... no idea how to make new friendships. I wish someone else would approach me since I am way too shy (socially awkward you might say) I joined a few groups from MeetUp in my city but have yet to find the courage to actually attend one of the events.

[succeedsocially]

To simply things hugely:

Meet people > Invite them to hang out > Keep hanging out until you're friends

Meeting people mostly involves putting yourself in situations where new potential friends are, ideally situations where it's easy to talk to them. Joining a club or team is probably the easiest.

Once you've met some cool people, take the initiative to invite them out. If you don't they'll always just be an acquaintance you only see in a specific place. Don't wait for other people to invite you themselves, if you want friends assume you have to do the work.