[EmotionalBlackMail]

I don't know if this is a unique way of coping after a bad relationship, but this is what I did today and it really helped. For a quick background story, I just got out of a horribly toxic relationship with a 27 year old "man" (more like kid, emotionally speaking). He treated me horribly but was the one to dump me and then quickly moved on to some other poor soul a week after.

Well, anyway...today, I had sad feelings towards the whole matter...wondering why he wanted to leave me, etc. etc. Then, to try to take my mind off of it, I tried to envision what I thought the ideal man would be for me in a relationship. I thought of all of the qualities this man would have (physically, emotionally, everything). I thought of unique characteristics this imaginary person would possess. I know it sounds a bit strange, but it really did help me cope because I realized that my ex has NONE of these qualities. All of his BAD outweigh any good he could possibly have...even the good qualities he possessed were mere blips on the radar of what I wanted to have overall in a relationship. Has anyone else done this before?

[FeltonRoad]

Actually that helped me a lot when I was coping with my breakup. I was spending so much time building up my ex like she was the most amazing person and when I really thought about it we weren't that great of a couple at all. She had things about her that I really loved, but there were also things about her that always made me worry about whether our relationship would work. It sorta helped me get over her quicker when I realized that there was a lot about her that I didn't like.