[Bogus4]

During the summer i feel in love with this guy and he loved me. Every time we were together it was as if the world stopped completely. the words that he spoke were pure and deep. At night i dreamed of his face and during the day we would do anything to be together. This boy was the only kid that made me truly happy.
despite our feelings toward one another, we only went out for a short week (even though afterwards we still were in love.) this relationship ended early thanks to my sister. she said horrible things about him to my parents that only encouraged them to disagree with the entire situation. they forced me to break up with him or else they'd find another way to prevent us from seeing each other.
MY POSITIVE OUTLOOK: eventually we will break up and family will always be there for you and some boy wont. but that was a lie.
my family wont EVER be there for me.
it turns out after a summer of lying by saying my feelings for him were non existing he gave up on me.
once summer started, my backstabbing sister fell for this kid.And they began dating. For some reason my parents were completely fine with it. It killed me in all ways possible. i couldn't cope for i never stopped loving this boy. id cry every night and every time i saw them together. as each day passed this kid and i grew more and more distant. (my sister forbids him to have any contact with me whatsoever, and he always follows her foolish rules)

they now have been going out for 5 months and my love has now transformed into a stupid happy person like my sister. everyone notices this and is waiting for one of there worthless fights to end it all and to have this kid return back to his old self.




any advice here for a backstabbing sister, forbidden love, and relationship that NEEDS to end?

[norajane]

He doesn't sound like much of a prize.

Find someone else to care for - someone who won't dump you for your sister.

[kepners]

HOLD ON.... are you saying honey YOUR SISTER is going with your BOY!?

tell me it aint so honey! tell me it aint so....
K

[Bogus4]

your probably right, norajane
actaully i know you are right

its just this kid, chris, was my way of happiness
sounds pathetic but i relied on him so much everytime something major went wrong
he was not only my first real love but he was my best friend and now i lost both of them

[kepners]

ur sister needs to learn a lesson! big time.

thats rude and harsh and horrible and cold and evil to do it to your sister (and your younger i am guessing)
well i honestly feel you need to set bounderies with your sister that dont involve the whole family, because i will say this, ur sister has no respect for you and will do it again.
you have learnt something that when someone hates your fella, they actually fancy them SO MUCH! and are jealous!! ok never forget that lesson.
also try not to let someone be the support for ur happiness, because thats a real pressure for anyone.
you can make urself happy, by going out and making NEW friends.

[Bogus4]

yes i am younger. When it comes down to people they always like her better and thats when I just become the "younger sister" ...nothing more nothing less.

the thing is ever since this happened i cant talk to my sister at all. we are constantly in fights and she just cant accept anything i say. talking to her is useless. so its almost impossible to try to set boundries. what ever my sister want my sister gets and its always her way.

anyways i learned not to rely on anyone for happiness and i also have learned you cannot trust family eventhough i secrectly knew this before. i just needed something to prove it first.

[kepners]

honey honey honey! ur sister is the same as you!!! why you think shes better is purely because you let her!!!
babe! seriously if people think shes like OWOWOWOWOW they will think the same about you, but ur just a LIL bit smaller

Try to not roll her circles thats all, you have to PUSH woman PUSH for what u want with ur sister. SISters has harsh harsh creatures! they are the hardest of all family members. specially they eldest. but u r the same as her. u just need to respect urself. and make an effort to not be the LIL one anymore, but 'hayleys sister' ok! it wont happen overnight, but it will happen if you make it happen and u push for ur ends and not alwasy let ur sister win. you only have to win the first one then it gets easier, because u will have jumped the highest wall.
also, getting an OLDER man will help you alot to grow and be strong and stand up for urself. because he wont let anyone push you around.

well food for you.

[alextop30]

What I read and understood is this. You met this guy which you fell in love with and he did too, for a while things were normal until your older sister said a bunch of crap to your parents about the guy that you were dating and you had to break up with him. Later your sister started dating the same guy you were tadting, that she helped break up the relationship. Ok I hope I got it right if this is the case and your parents are ok with it I dont know what to say. "seriously" I am speachless - first your sister is a person that you should never talk to again - if this is the situation second I would just totally ignore your parents and stop speaking to them too.

I am still amazed at how sister would do that to her younger sister and parents would be totally ok with it. Let me say there is something really wrong with that and you should really consider you options of never talking to them again --- (that is only if I understood the whole situation right)

[kepners]

ur sister get her family power from dad, he will be her princess. try being mates with mum... cuz no matter how much princess wants, if mum says NO dad will not want to **** MUM OFF!!

[Bogus4]

alextop, yes you have to whole situation correct.
and yeh speachless is how i am. with my family i feel like i am the smallest for i dont fit in here. which is why i dotn talk much and stay out of the house as much as possible. it still doesnt make it any easier living here though.
and kepners, i will take that advice and try to jump that highest fence, i feel like one day i will get over it
but the whole situation with get a parent on your sides is once again hopeless for my parents are idots who favor my sister because she controls the house. so really my parents are trying to get on my sisters side for their own benefite. me? i am an army of my own.

what i need to do is move on....but i live in a small town full of people i hate which makes the kid that my sister is dating only sound better
fjsdkafjdsajf
i need to get out more and fast

[alextop30]

I was hoping that I could find your age in ur profile give a more appropriate advice - I will assume u are in the ages that you cannot move out of your house and give your peace of mind to your parents because simply there is no way to support yourself and things like that. After all of my dumb assumptions I can say is "man that must suck and you must be furious" second thing I would say I have been into simular situation but it was not envolving girls - I have a brother who is on this site as well go figure. So a thing that I can suggest for living life better - try to be home very small time as you are doing - totally ignore your sister - she needs to see what she has done to you because next time she will need you badly and you can choose to bring her down. I am saying hold a grudge - revenge is never really that sweet but it shows someone that they cannot do terrible things to you and still expect you to be their friend \sibling. As far as to your parents talk very limited to them since they are very responcible for the insident.

My parents are very different - since I am a guy and it is proven kids side with opocite sex parent - me with my mom I was always little able to controll outcome of my parents reactions especially my mom but by the end me and my dad cannot stay in the same room together. I have had problem where he was telling me to go to college and me just totally waving him off and not caring what he was saying but something like that for them to totally ignore me over my brother it has never happened, I am also younger in the family but I outshine my brother in pretty much everything.

I dont know if what kepners says will work but you can certainly check it - try to get closer to your mom - I dont know how close you are with your mom dont know if my theory works - which says that you should be closer with your dad but still if you are close with your mom you can do some small girl talk but very carefuly bring up the conversation and basically do same as your sister did to you. I was able to do this coz I got some conversation skills and I can stear what we are talking about in the direction I want and not go overboard until I become the victum.

If that advice was sertainly not really useful all that might be - All you do dont say it is your fault that happened and dont feel sorry because you will drive yourself nuts and your self confidence will crash down.

[norajane]

Originally Posted by alextop30

All you do dont say it is your fault that happened and dont feel sorry because you will drive yourself nuts and your self confidence will crash down.

It's the sister's fault and the guy's fault. Don't let him off the hook. The sister didn't FORCE him to date her - he made that choice and that makes him a jerk, so don't forget it.

[alextop30]

I compleately agree with norajane. There is a choise that they made and it is no way your fault.

[Bogus4]

i know.
dispite how much i may/maynot (havent fully decided) this kid im certianly not going to act as if he didnt contribute to this pain, for he did.