Hi there,

My boyfriend talks too much and its starting to drive me crazy! He's a great guy other wise. I am a very patient person and tend to do more listening in conversations than talking. But its gotten to the point were I can't take it any more.

Lately I've been putting the phone on the table.. just to see how long it will take him to realize that I'm not listening and he'll just keep rambling on and on and on! and when there's a conversation with other ppl.. he'll always match their story with one of his stories.. I really want to talk to him about it.. but don't know how to without hurting his feelings.. please help me!

[theapathy]

I'm going through the same right now, my fiance talks WAY TOO MUCH, I love him and all, but just now we were on the phone, and he was interrogating me! That's the worse, that I can't even do what you do and just leave the phone on the table, because he's asking stuff!

It wouldn't bother me much if he didn't make so many questions!

Soon I feel irritated and then I can't make a conversation with him, and his reaction is too keep asking more or talking until the point where I have to lie and tell him that I'll talk to him later because I'll go and do [insert lie of the day here] and that I'll call him back... I hate having to do this, but geez, it's rare when we're having a conversation where I can give some feedback! It's a real problem with me because my fiance is VERY sensitive, so I feel even sadder that I have no way to tell him seriously that this bothers me greatly, yesterday, jokingly (to see if he got the indirect) I said giggling "hehe, quit asking me so many questions baby, I feel like I'm in a test" and chuckled some more so he'd take it playfully, and UGH, that's EXACTLY what he did and ignored me, because today he's back to talking NON-STOP and asking me a 10000000000 questions, and is not like I'm not an open person, I am! Is just that I tend to explain everything in a brief way... It seems like he wants to know every FREAKING detail of the places where I've been or the things that I've done, and I mean EVERY stupid little detail, **** that I don't even know myself because I don't pay that much attention to little things! And I have told him that jokingly to see if he stopped asking, but UGH, he just won't, may God have mercy on me

Anyway, sorry for the rant, I just wanted you to know that you're not alone here

[whichwayisup]

You're in the relationship with him, BE honest and talk to him. Both of you need to step up to the plate and take some control.

Theapathy, if you plan on marrying this man, you gotta speak up otherwise your marriage will suffer.