This is serious and I'm in a panic. I had a one night stand with a friend who is married in the process of getting divorced. I'm single btw. Evidently I scratched him with my fingernails while we were at it and now it's infected. He and his wife don't sleep in the same bed and haven't for years, but still it seems unlikely that she won't notice this at some point...
Does anyone have any good explanations or cover up ideas?
All real help appreciated, and to all flamers, even good people make mistakes sometimes and this will never happen again.
It's really not your problem. You said it was a one-night stand, so it is he who should be panicking, right? He is the one who is "married." Don't know what you're all worked up about. Plus he is in the process of divorce and sleeping in a different bedroom? I don't understand the problem? A lot of people feel that separated is the same as single, and if he doesn't want his soon to be ex wife to see the scratch, again, that is his problem and doesn't really involve you.
Last edited by bridget_jones; 31st March 2007 at 4:44 AM..
If his story is true, there is little chance she'll see a scratch on his back. Its pretty simple really. Keep his shirt on. Why would he ever have a need to have it off around her if they don't share a bed and are divorcing?
If she sees it, one of two things will happen. She simply won't care enough at that point to make a note of it... or, she will lose her sh*t. There isn't a woman out there who is so dumb as to mistake scratches like that for something they aren't. In fact, a good deal of them see 'innocent' scratches and assume the worse. He will have to either refuse to talk about it, or tell her the truth. There really isn't a plausible lie that is going to fly in a situation like that.
The only problem I can see coming out of it is if you are all in a 'fault' state - especially ones with AOA or CC (alienation of affection or criminal conversation) laws. That could make a divorce sticky.
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If what he is telling you is true, that they sleep in separate bedrooms and they're in the process of ending their marriage, why even worry? BUT, something tells me that maybe you're realizing he isn't leaving his wife and what he's told you isn't true...Either way, it's still his problem.
Another angle here, if you don't want to worry about getting caught, tone it down in the bedroom. You scratch him in bed, that's part of the consquence of your affair with a MM.
how oh how is she going to see scratches on his back?! Are you in Australia experiencing such an unbearable wave of heat that he will feel complelled to strip in front of his estranged wife and turn his back on her?
Or do you think he'll be gileless enough to ask her to treat the infection because he cannot reach there to apply ointment?
Is it so badly infected that it risks leaking puss and blood through his clothing thus eliciting comments from his wife as she passes him on the way to work?
If you are not planning a repeat performance of the famous Cat Woman one nighter why oh why would you even give this a second thought?
The questions are going round and round (and round) in my head and all I can think is
a) troll
b) troll
c) non troll who is not giving all the information (ie. Said man is married to your sister and they are in fact not estranged and you happened to scratch your initials on his back)
d) foolish woman that shouldn't be in the heat of the kitchen since she clearly is not cut out for OW status
e) troll
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Last edited by Reckless; 31st March 2007 at 4:30 PM..
OK, I'll cut to the chase (I'm not endorsing infidelity, but I love to come up with creative excuses).
"I saw a pitbull carrying off a struggling toddler into this bank of rose bushes, while I was taking out the garbage, and I just could not help myself; I crawled
Into the thorny mess and scratched my back up in the process! Unfortunately, I never did find the pitbull and it's prey, and I'm just so distraught over this traumatic experience, and in so much pain, that I need you to apply antibiotic ointment now! Maybe a back-rub, too! I feel so bad about that toddler!"
Sure to explain the infected wounds and curry sympathy (and medication) at the same time....
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This is serious and I'm in a panic. I had a one night stand with a friend who is married in the process of getting divorced. I'm single btw. Evidently I scratched him with my fingernails while we were at it and now it's infected. He and his wife don't sleep in the same bed and haven't for years, but still it seems unlikely that she won't notice this at some point...
Does anyone have any good explanations or cover up ideas?
All real help appreciated, and to all flamers, even good people make mistakes sometimes and this will never happen again.
Thanks!
not condoning A's at all b/c Im a BW but I REALLY HAVE scratched myself close to my bikini line; where did u scratch him?...It was from those really annoying sensor tags they put on new clothing now days...DON"T have any more one night stand w/ any M guys, separated or not!!!!
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I am pretty sure you're the man who had the ONS and your marriage is regular. Did you really think that people would give you any ideas if your story is true? Or if you told the truth...
Anyway, I really don't think that his/your wife would buy ANY excuses. The best is to tell the truth or hide the cratches.
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She never did say where she scratched him, leaving much to the imagination. Guest, come out come out wherever you are, inquiring minds wanna know what happened.
Did the wife find the marks?
Is she nursing him back to health or has he run to you for the love and care that only you can give him?
Are you pregnant yet?
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