[Young&Sexy21]

It's been 2 and 1/2 months since my ex left me and today, her little sister asked me out.

I'm not entirely over my ex and really one of the only thoughts that get me through each day is "she'll be back". Now while I know this is most certainly not guaranteed, it helps me cope. I've gone on dates and I've been shot down trying to go on dates---I'm trying to move on. But there's still that soft spot that really wants things to work with my ex. Her, on the other hand, she's not even talking to me.

And so to be asked out by her sister says: I don't know what they talk to each other about, but she's definately over me.

I'd never try to go with an ex's sister. No matter how attractive she was or how much we clicked---I'd feel like I was trying to prove myself to my ex and that wouldn't get me anywhere.

The reason for my post is that I need some support. I don't have anyone I feel like I can talk to and this break up has been the hardest I've ever been through. I get these feelings like I'm hopeless and that if I made choices that messed up my relationship, which was going along pretty swimmingly...nothing ridiculous---I didn't cheat or anything like that...but that if I messed up a relationship that was good, howam I ever going to be able to hold onto a good relationship in the future and make it work?

[Ssheena]

The best way I know to answer your question about, "how am I ever going to be able to hold onto a good relationship in the future and make it work?" is by learning from the relationship that just ended. Also by doing lots of work on knowing yourself and what you want.

Practice, practice, practice.

You're off to a good start if you have morals enough NOT to date her sister.

[JCD]

Actually, I would date her sister. I would go into it with the mindset that I'm doing it for myself and I'll be damned what the ex thinks about it. Who knows? This could really work and you two could end up living happily ever after. I've heard stories where twins dated the other twins and then after a while they switched their partners and everything worked out for the better. Maybe you've destined to be with her sister instead of your ex. You never know until you try it.