Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
does going to a strip club be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces--
now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldnt pay for a lap dance but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night!
i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night!
basically what goes on is you have money-grubbing young women of questionable morals who have been sexually molested or abused in some other way trying to make an easy buck. You also have desperate men with money to burn who want attention from young pretty females. Its basically a business arrangement. The women pretend they like the guys and then empty their wallets fairly quickly. Its a total scam.
You should take a girlfriend to one and pretend you're lesbians. Make sure you take a lot of $1 and $10 bills also. Have fun!
does going to a strip club be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces--
now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldnt pay for a lap dance but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night!
Do you think it's cheating? Some people think it is and some don't. Does he think going to one is okay?
Google strip clubs and read what comes up if you can't visit one.
does going to a strip club be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces--
now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldnt pay for a lap dance but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night!
I don't consider it as cheating, but thats just my opinion. I also don't consider the guy getting a lapdance cheating, many will probably disagree with me.
If on the other hand your guy asks for their phone number and takes them out on a date ect then yes that is considered cheating in my books.
I don't consider it as cheating, but thats just my opinion. I also don't consider the guy getting a lapdance cheating, many will probably disagree with me.
If on the other hand your guy asks for their phone number and takes them out on a date ect then yes that is considered cheating in my books.
does going to a be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces--
now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldn't pay for a e but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a --i might have to visit one night!
I do consider it cheating. When my H and first got M, I knew it went on w/ business assoc., etc, but had no idea what really went on in some of the really upscale; if there is such a thing, "gentleman's clubs". He would travel extensively w/ very wealthy colleagues and they would go to these places. I only overheard some comments here and there at work functions, etc., so I knew they were going. I just thought it was sitting at a table, drinking excessively, mabey putting some money in their G string? I found out after all of my H's cheating did come out, that there were lap dances in private rooms...So...I do not consider it cheating if it's done the way it was done in my head years ago, but I DO consider whatever goes on behind closed doors in a "lap" dance, to be cheating! Hope that helps...
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Last edited by outofdarkness; 12th March 2007 at 9:44 AM.
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does going to a strip club be considered kinda cheating? my boyfriend went to one the other night--and i know from old friends that used to work at some in that same town that girls walk around completely naked and put their stuff in guys faces--
now he wont tell me which one he went to and he said he sat at the bar and drank--and that he wouldnt pay for a lap dance but...who knows! i am so curious to know what goes on inside a strip club--i might have to visit one night!
It is considered cheating in my relationship. If someone is going to be naked on top of my man it better be me. Some people are ok with this however. Just make sure your partner shares your beliefs.
Yea I think its cheating, flirting and being physically that close or having intentions and lust towards somoeone other than partner to me is just wrong. It happens naturally, but when u act on it, go to strip clubs, watch porn, grab a girls ass, whistle at her or whatever, even a girl doing that is just bad for the relationship I think -Darla
I don't think it's cheating, but more of a popular form of entertainment for men (and women). Customers at strip clubs aren't allowed to really touch the dancers or get handsy with them,etc. It's arousing and some couples enjoy it together in order to spice up their own private sex life. I've been to strip clubs with boyfriends before, and its no big deal. The dancers are just making money and the guys get to watch them dance. That's it.
Unless like someone already mentioned here, the business relationship becomes more personal, and the guy exchanges phone # with the dancers, it isn't cheating.
I can't beleive so many ppl think this is considered cheating....I guess husbands/boyfriends somewhat are starting to have reasons to lie and be sneaky.
It's just the way lifeis and I guess ppl want to live in a fairy tale world where these "things" don't happen....its just entertainment...I can see if he gives his number etc...but I defiently don't consider watching strippers cheating
Personally I don't consider it cheating at all. I have no problem at all ever for a boyfriend/partner to go. In fact, in the past have made it very clear that it's totally OK by me. It's seems to be a large part of the high flyer City culture - and many even claim it back on company expenses as "client entertainment" - perfectly ligit.
I've never been to one and they hold no appeal or curiosity for me - well guess they wouldn't. And I'm certainly not going to spend my hard earned money on another woman waving her bum in my face.
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Last edited by justagirlforever; 27th March 2007 at 5:32 PM.
basically what goes on is you have money-grubbing young women of questionable morals who have been sexually molested or abused in some other way trying to make an easy buck. You also have desperate men with money to burn who want attention from young pretty females. Its basically a business arrangement. The women pretend they like the guys and then empty their wallets fairly quickly. Its a total scam.
Well that was pithy
Anyway how I see it is that if you're monogamous, you shouldn't have physical contact of a sexual nature with someone else. So I would not give my husband flak over going to one, I mean, if he is looking, that's about like looking at porn, which we all like to do from time to time. (almost all, whatever). But lap dances with touching would piss me off. Would he be mad if I gave someone a lap dance? Yeah, and I would be mad if some non-stripper gave him one for free.
I don't see how exchanging money makes it not cheating. If it's just looking at the girls that's cool but touching is reserved for me.
basically what goes on is you have money-grubbing young women of questionable morals who have been sexually molested or abused in some other way trying to make an easy buck.
I don't think it's quite fair to say that all women involved in stripping have either been sexually molested or abused. There are many students out there just trying to make a quick buck. Their morals might however temporarily (or permanently) fly out of the window and they might take advantage of the men by emptying their wallets.
Ps: and just for the record - none of my ex's (while in a relationship with me) have ever been to a strip club - despite given the green light to do so. And I'll also add that if anyone I date see it as a necesary hobby / past time / whatever, I'd no longer continue the relationship. It's not something I'd want to be part of a healthy relationship. Once in a blue moon, fine. Once a week or even month - not fine.
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