I was with my boyfriend for over 5 years. He was very good to me. Of course, we had our ups and downs (what couple doesn't??), but eventually we broke up. We remained good friends (it's been 2 years since the breakup) and last night he told me something shocking. He and my sister have been sleeping together for a couple of months and they want to go public with their relationship. I don't know how to react to this.

My sister, first of all is bi. Does he know this??? Should I ask??? Second, he's my ex and she's my sister??!!! I can't even look at her in the face and I haven't even spoken to him after this conversation. Third, I had hope that we would get back together because he would constantly tell me that he hopes to marry me someday and that he still loves me. I still love him too! What is going on here?? What do I do??

[Motor35]

I would be SO pissed at my sister! Doesn't she know the rules of sisterhood?!?! I would tell both of them that I was NOT happy.

[stillafool]

Your sister has definitely crossed the line. I would talk to her about it. I wouldn't do that to a friend of mine much less my sister.

[Carl321]

By being with your sister and wanting to go public, it is patently obvious that his telling you that he still loves you and wants to marry you someday is pure BS. He was telling you that to keep you in the wings as a backup plan. Any man who truly wants to work on a relationship with a woman is not going to fool around with her sister--that is an absolute 100% deal breaker for you.

As for discussing this with them, I really don't see the point. People "in love" are going to do whatever they want to do. One thing is clear: there is no need whatsoever for you to speak with him again. You may want to express to your sister your disappointment with her, but nothing you say is going to make her want to end the relationship. Forget this guy and move on.

[Cocobutter]

Youre sister is truly messed. Its sad to say it sucks when people only think about themselves, but it sucks even more when its family. Honestly, i dont know what i wouldve done if i were you. Something similar happened to me a couple weeks ago like that. My ex (a guy i still feel for) left a comment under a picture of my sister and I, well it was all jokes, until she left her number in a reply.....excuse me?

She said it was a joke and she was bored...um no, what you are is major screwed up. I told her right there and then that i would kill her if she ever crossed that line, i've never hurt anyone really bad before, but i was willing to take that step. I really wouldnt see the wrong in it if you made her life miserable until you felt satisfied...

[D-Lish]

Disown them both.... that's quite the betrayal.

well i think that you should talk to them and find out whats going on so that you can try to fix every thing

QUOTE=Guest;1112335]I was with my boyfriend for over 5 years. He was very good to me. Of course, we had our ups and downs (what couple doesn't??), but eventually we broke up. We remained good friends (it's been 2 years since the breakup) and last night he told me something shocking. He and my sister have been sleeping together for a couple of months and they want to go public with their relationship. I don't know how to react to this.

My sister, first of all is bi. Does he know this??? Should I ask??? Second, he's my ex and she's my sister??!!! I can't even look at her in the face and I haven't even spoken to him after this conversation. Third, I had hope that we would get back together because he would constantly tell me that he hopes to marry me someday and that he still loves me. I still love him too! What is going on here?? What do I do??[/quote]