[Budda57]

I was out at the dance clubs/bar this weekend. I was walking around to see who was there and all of the sudden I feel this hand on my butt!! I look back and I see the girl trying to run away. I catch up to her and start talking. We hit it off and end up dancing most the night together. As the night was ending as we dancing, I asks her if she want to leave with me. I got denied badly but I kind of thought it would happen. (I figured I had to try because things between us were going so well) I told her I had to leave (to be up early in the morning because of my firefighting academy) and so I ask for her phone number and she says NO...?

Today I got the itch to find her on Facebook and I was successful. I added her as a friend. Within 30 minutes I got a message saying "hey cutie, how are you?" So I wrote her a message asking if she was still in town? I haven't got a reply bad yet.

What do you guys thing? Is she interested or is my mind playing games?

[confucious]

She sounds like she enjoys the "chase' and being desired. There are a million motives she could have from self-esteem to getting back at an ex to plain thinking you are cute.

Questions to ask yourself - \

1. Do you think a relationship with a chick like this would be fruitful?
2. If she DOES just want to play games/shag, are you the type of guy who can deal with this and not get hurt?

I personally have never had anything good come out of a bar hook-up, though I am sure it happens.

[Lauriebell82]

she turned u down when u asked her to go home with u and wouldnt give u her number..she's not interested! although she left u a message on facebook, that doesnt mean she wants to get involved with u. if u are interested in being her friend, than u could suggest that. she obviously knows ur interested. if she is interested in u she'll step it up a notch. back off though, she probably isnt interested in getting involved with u at the moment.

[gfto]

Originally Posted by Budda57

I ask for her phone number and she says NO...?

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Is she interested?

No. If she was interested, she would've gladly given you her number.

[Lorca]

I've noticed this trend when I go to a club. Some women will even grab your junk! I've learned it's harmless flirting and even if you pursue it, it usually doesn't go anywhere. I don't know how or when that became acceptable, but it's common.

It doesn't sound like she's interested though.

[elijahBailey]

Nah, Budda, you should pass.. She's totally playing you and she knows she's got the upper hand because you're all over her now. Back off now and see if she comes back. If she doesn't, just move on. I think you were coming on too strong.