… that you are more than willing to commit yourself physically and socially to a relationship, but guard your heart heavily. Usually when someone gets burned bad by love, or who can't let go of someone they cared deeply about, we say that person is emotionally unavailable.
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… that you are more than willing to commit yourself physically and socially to a relationship, but guard your heart heavily. Usually when someone gets burned bad by love, or who can't let go of someone they cared deeply about, we say that person is emotionally unavailable.
Is the the whole concept?
Is it applicable in situations where there is no former heartbreak, or ex, or traumatic situation, etc?
I ask because I was wasn't sure if it related to people who ACT emotional about something, but take no steps to remedy the situation. Or who do not react emotionally to an emotional situation (for ex. just saying "sh*t happens" on 9/11 or something). Or only act emotional about something when backed into a corner about it. (not necessarily romatically, but in general)
I guess in my mind I have always thought "emotionally unavailable" had a broader meaning than just in relation to romantic relationships. That's why I asked. I want to make sure I'm thinking about it in the right context, but sounds like maybe I haven't been.
Emotionally unavailable seems fairly self explanatory. For whatever reason, a person's emotions aren't there. Be it because of previous heartbreak, their lack of desire for a committed relationship, or various other reasons.
Is it applicable in situations where there is no former heartbreak, or ex, or traumatic situation, etc?
I ask because I was wasn't sure if it related to people who ACT emotional about something, but take no steps to remedy the situation. Or who do not react emotionally to an emotional situation (for ex. just saying "sh*t happens" on 9/11 or something). Or only act emotional about something when backed into a corner about it. (not necessarily romatically, but in general)
I guess in my mind I have always thought "emotionally unavailable" had a broader meaning than just in relation to romantic relationships. That's why I asked. I want to make sure I'm thinking about it in the right context, but sounds like maybe I haven't been.
emotionally unavailable is usually taken to mean that a person's heart isn't in one thing because it's already in something else. it applies to romantic situations where people are still emotionally attached to exs, but it can also apply where romance is not on the cards too. i am emotionally unavailable for a relationship, because i am celibate. i am also physically unavailable for one.
people who don't seem to care much about things or don't show much emotion could be classed as emotionally distant, if you need to put a label on it.
but the word 'unavailable' suggests to me that someone has the potential to be available, they're just not yet. or they're not with you. or they're not in a certain situation. it doesn't mean they will always be unavailable to everyone in every situation. THAT would be more like emotionally distant. or cold. or unemotional.
yeah, really not sure this is of much help now i've read it back. i need food. i can't think til i've had some tea.
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I think I just tended to clump things like "emotionally distant" and "emotionally immature" or what have you all under the heading of "emotionally unavailable".
Like I said, I just wanted to make sure I was using the term in the right context. (not that I've been using the term, I just had this feeling I wasn't quite thinking about it right when I saw others using it)
That's a good point, bluetuesday - "emotionally unavailable" is implying that the emotional and the physical can be decoupled.
Which is a bit ridiculous. Actually, now that I come to think of it, I could be emotionally unavailable. Yes, that makes sense. Does anybody fancy a shag?
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… that you are more than willing to commit yourself physically and socially to a relationship, but guard your heart heavily. Usually when someone gets burned bad by love, or who can't let go of someone they cared deeply about, we say that person is emotionally unavailable.
OMG, I am emotionally unavailable.
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