You said you don't know who you can trust off of google but your best bet would probably be googling relationship counselors in your area and look at their websites. Many counselors have an about me (or us) section where you can read about their techniques and strategies. Many also offer free consultations so if you go to one and don't like it you haven't lost anything.
If you really don't want to rely on google talk to friends in the area and see if they have and suggestions.
I just found this by looking up relationship counseling in Seattle on google
http://www.scn.org/crisis/counseling.html maybe it will help.
Best of luck to you!