[Santiago 17]

It has been about six months since I broke up w/ my ex. I was really devastated about it, however I slowly got better. Last week I was doing awesome, and had been pretty good for at least a month. Then a ll of a sudden I feel like I am back in like week 2 or 3 or something!!! I feel like crying, hopeless, and just really miss her a lot. Random things remind me of her, and I want to contact her again. I don't know why this is happening after six months? All I can think of is that after not contacting me over the holidays at all, she decides to send me an e-mail on V-day wishing me a good one and asked how I was doing? I didn't even get to it until four days later and did not respond. It really didn't have an immediate effect on me, but then I got the flu and was sick for a couple of days and I just feel really bad now. Is it normal to all of a sudden feel soooo bad after sooooo long and after doing soooo well? I hope it is temporary! Right now I just feel like calling her and asking her all the things I never got answers too and why she still contacts me and why now and not x-mas or new years or just some random day, but that would just drag out the process of healing. Any insight would really help I'm in a real tough spot!!!


Santiago 17

[Ripples]

Your physiology isn't at its best at the moment. You've been ill and that's going to drag you down, not just physically but mentally as well. When we're feeling ill, or recovering from illness, we feel much more needy of others than we normally do. Even if you feel that you're over the flu, your body may still be recovering. So it's perfectly normal for you to be feeling this way.

Make yourself a promise that you won't consider contacting her until you're 100% again. Instead, call your friends, family and have them give you a little support now.

[Santiago 17]

Ahhh! I had the most uncomfortable run in today! My ex's "ex" who I found staying the night at her house way back when walked into my work today. I was actually checking up on an employee who is suspected of drinking on the job and she was helping him. I had to sit there while one of the people who works for me (who by the way was totally wasted) made me watch his dad or uncle or some old dude he was with do a magic trick. I was pretty sure he knew who I was and I just felt so awkward. I was able to laugh at it though, and it actually just made me revisit why I really ended it and reminded me that I had good reason.