We read so much about the warnings, pitfalls and horror stories of rekindling with an EX. Does anyone have a success story where the return of the EX or return to the EX is the best thing that ever happened to them?
I know (not personally) people who had got divorced and re-married later.
That almost counts as “one” RP {{{smiles}}}
Seriously though, it's hard to come by any sucess stories and not sure if they all go unnoticed or once rekindled they go about their new life without looking for space to tell everyone about it. Surely, there has to be cases out there somewhere? Hmmmmm…..
Seriously though, it's hard to come by any sucess stories and not sure if they all go unnoticed or once rekindled they go about their new life without looking for space to tell everyone about it. Surely, there has to be cases out there somewhere? Hmmmmm…..
Statistics don't make your life's success. Even if none has succeeded, it doesn't mean your won't. And especially, if there is some happy-ending cae out there, it doesn't mean you have better chances for success.
Statistics don't make your life's success. Even if none has succeeded, it doesn't mean your won't. And especially, if there is some happy-ending cae out there, it doesn't mean you have better chances for success.
No argument from me.
This is a great quote from "UNDERPANTS" in another series of threads worth consideration by anyone wondering how to get on with life...this quote is in reference to taking some action to move on aftrer realizing what a mistake has been made in letting someone go and then having regrets. This to me is the realities of any consideration for getting back with an EX and probably what the majority of persons out there go through.
"Once finding someone who you click with in a healthy way, a reminder, to hold on, work on and be there fully. Now if you choose this option, of course Murphy's Law may reintroduce said painful ex into the picture wanting you back. Then you will be faced with a possibly painful choice. Hopefully, by then you can always look at this ex as a learning experience to be applied to the person you decide to commit to. Thank her for the interest/closure whatever, and move on with the best intentions and follow thru to the new girl. Hopfully by then you can make the most productive choice for your future, even if a little painful."
I don't know all the details, but one of my friend's twin sister broke up with her boyfriend in her mid-twenties, they got back together a year later, got married and just recently had a kid and everything is going great. But I don't know what broke them up. My friend did report that they were always incredibly respectful of each other during the break up. What I got is that they went LC, each went about their lives and eventually came to the realization that they had made a mistake... But that's the only story I've got. Out of all the relationships of all my friends.
I think that the best method for getting a second chance is what Kamile posted above. Being very respectful to each other during the breakup and remaining very LC. I have seen couples that had long, messy break ups because they didn't stop contact right away. By the end of it, they were both so fed up with the whole process that they had ruined any chances of ever reconciling, even though they still had feelings for each other. Also, I believe that couples that try to remain "friends" after the break up have less of a chance of getting back together. The dynamic that they once had changes forever. Plus, they don't get a chance to really picture their lives without the other person in it. Thoughts anyone?
I think that the best method for getting a second chance is what Kamile posted above. Being very respectful to each other during the breakup and remaining very LC. I have seen couples that had long, messy break ups because they didn't stop contact right away. By the end of it, they were both so fed up with the whole process that they had ruined any chances of ever reconciling, even though they still had feelings for each other. Also, I believe that couples that try to remain "friends" after the break up have less of a chance of getting back together. The dynamic that they once had changes forever. Plus, they don't get a chance to really picture their lives without the other person in it. Thoughts anyone?
I think there is alot of truth to this. I know of 2 couple that divorced and a couple years later got back together. They always stayed in good relations with each other. The divorce was fast and easy, neither trying to screw the other over. One couple had children and they took the responsibilities very seriously and shared everything related to the children even after the divorce.
Hi..i posted on here sporadically over a 4 month span regarding my break up. We got back together 1 1/2 months ago after being broken up for almost five months and we were together for five years. I tried NC with him but it would never work because he would ALWAYS find some way to contact me. He got another gf like a week after he left, got her pregnant and everything else. She ultimately did miscarry within a few weeks and then after that he broke up with her. She was a rebound and thruout the long drawn out five months we were broken up, you could tell he was 100 percent confused with what he wanted to do. It wasnt until i started dating other guys that he finally sat me down and we talked for the first time in i dont even know how long about EVERYTHING. His fears, my fears, his concerns, my concerns, i found out so many things during that talk that i never had a clue about. He was the one that initiated the break up, but we were both at fault. We are going to be getting married soon and from this break up we have both changed a LOT. Weve both learned a lot of hard lessons and have faced up to reality on things that we would try to sweep under the rug. Communication was our biggest issue. This experience has changed us both a great deal. As far as the past goes, its just that..the past and thats where we are leaving it. So, yeah i think we are a success story. We show each other that we love one another EVERY DAY. A relationship is work and we were the type to just sit by and think everything would work itself out, wrong. You have to work at it and make it work..as we have learned.
We are going to be getting married soon and from this break up we have both changed a LOT. Weve both learned a lot of hard lessons and have faced up to reality on things that we would try to sweep under the rug. Communication was our biggest issue. This experience has changed us both a great deal. As far as the past goes, its just that..the past and thats where we are leaving it. So, yeah i think we are a success story. We show each other that we love one another EVERY DAY.
FINALLY! Credible testament of a “get back together” story. I guess it is possible after all.
This is about semi-success stories and hope for a success story.
In the course of my life I've been dumped several times in the "i never want to see you again" sort of way. This of course has meant NC after the emotional trauma was over. Each time, without exception, within 6 months I was contacted to "get back together for a fresh start". Each time my protective barriers had gone up and I said "no" but now wonder what might have been.
I'm in a similar situation now with my wife who dumped me on an AC (Appropriate Contact) basis. I'm moving on but this time my protective barriers are staying down to allow her to initiate a fresh start if she so decides. I hope to post a success story here sooner or later.
This is about semi-success stories and hope for a success story.
In the course of my life I've been dumped several times in the "i never want to see you again" sort of way. This of course has meant NC after the emotional trauma was over. Each time, without exception, within 6 months I was contacted to "get back together for a fresh start". Each time my protective barriers had gone up and I said "no" but now wonder what might have been.
I'm in a similar situation now with my wife who dumped me on an AC (Appropriate Contact) basis. I'm moving on but this time my protective barriers are staying down to allow her to initiate a fresh start if she so decides. I hope to post a success story here sooner or later.
Hello Yernasia,
I’m sorry to her about your situation and hope for the best in your recovery and healing. I’ve written about ‘hoping’ and ‘expectations’ several times before when it comes to reconciliation; I believe it is okay to hope that one day your EX might contact you and when that happens you can decide if its wanted or not, however it is never healthy to be expectant of such an occurrence even though past breakups have seen the dumper initiate contact with you (you mentioned within six months). I suppose if your hope is alive but not your expectations then you are in great shape!
I have wishes for you that your “hopes” come about the way you want and dream of.
We read so much about the warnings, pitfalls and horror stories of rekindling with an EX. Does anyone have a success story where the return of the EX or return to the EX is the best thing that ever happened to them?
Well. I don't talk about this much but here goes.
I met my current boyfriend while I was involved with someone else in a long distance relationship. We had a fling, and both developed feelings, but as soon as I started falling for him I broke it off.
I proceeded to get engaged to my LDR boyfriend, even though he knew I had been unfaithful. We simply didn't talk about it. But the engagement was very brief, only 2 months, and my LDR boyfriend ended up going back to his home in Scotland.
After that I ended up calling my current boyfriend, just to hang out with him. Be near him. He was still single. He rebuffed me initially, but I was persistent. We ended up getting back together and have been together now for over a year. The relationship just keeps getting better and stronger, from such a shakey foundation.
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