My boyfriend of 3 years told me that sex is boring with me. But two days ago he told me that sex is NOT boring with me. I do everything he wants me to do. He has told me many times that I'm a freak and that he likes that about me. Now all of the sudden out of the blue, he tells me that sex with me is boring. Then other times at different days he tells me that it isnt boring. He has me so confused I dont know what to think anymore. we are five years apart. I'm older than him. I'm 33 and he's 29...... Does anyone have any advice or comments
My Ex sometimes said stuff like that to hurt me. I am certain that he did not actually think it was boring, but sometimes when he was angry or frustrated about something in our relationship, he would say it.
I would have a talk with him, if I were you. If he does find the sex boring something has to change and you have to figure out how. If he does not find the sex boring he must have some other reason for saying it. If the latter is the case he should address the real problems instead.
so who in a committed relationship doesn't find sex boring after all the years. There is only so many places you can do it. If you love cheesecake to an obsession, try having it everyday, for breakfast, lunch and dinner. you get the picture.
we are five years apart. I'm older than him. I'm 33 and he's 29......
Hmmm. Maybe your focus shouldn't be on the sex for now...
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Boring people are bored. So I'd throw that right back at him.
But that is just me - I've never been told anything like this - in fact -- the opposite - but IF it did happen I have no doubt had I'd react.
If he thought sex with me was boring - but then not boring - but then boring - I'd say what I said above.
And then when he wanted something - he'd get "no, I don't really want to. I mean after all you said it is boring for you anyway." He'd do some apologizing for a while and then would think long and hard (no pun intended) before saying anything like that again.
Seriously, if there was a problem, you don't point out problems without having suggestions for solutions. I don't have any respect for that.
next time he says the sex is boring. stop letting him have it for a while. do everything but sex. then when you decide to have sex with him again. maybe he will keep his mouth shut.
it takes two to tango. if he thinks its boring, let him know it may be him just as well. sounds like he's trying to be hurtful. you can control that by cutting it off for a while. he'll miss it.
im with stargazer though. what is the focus of relationship?
on crumbs behalf, i agree somewhat. if he is bored, he can change it. obviously she is wanting to please if she is concerned about it. but pricillia has a point also. it sucks when someone just is not into it and out there somewhere.
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