[Babybird]

I found out today that my ex-husband is engaged. No dates have been set. I can't explain how that made me feel.

Of course my first response was 'Wow your going take the plunge again? Already?'. (This will be his third marriage.)

I really wanted to be happy for him but I couldn't. I was a BS. He cheated on me with my supposed two best friends. One he made out with while I was in the other room. THe other he slept with while I was at home with our 2 month old daughter. Nice friends huh?

So now I'm the OW. (Granted, his W isn't my friend. I have met her casually on a few occasions and no that isn't an attempt at a justification.) I no longer believe in the sanctity of marriage. My feelings could change and maybe I am still bitter. I wonder if the reason that I'm having an A is like a sub-conscious revenge on him...even though it's not him?? Hmmm...

Anyway I can't pinpoint the feeling I have. I think it might be a little jealous, and I can't help but wonder if he will be faithful to her. What ticks me off is that I have these feelings to begin with.

Has anyone else been through this and had these weird feelings and don't/didn't know why?

[Jinxx]

Originally Posted by Babybird

I really wanted to be happy for him but I couldn't. I was a BS. He cheated on me with my supposed two best friends. One he made out with while I was in the other room. THe other he slept with while I was at home with our 2 month old daughter. Nice friends huh?

So now I'm the OW. (Granted, his W isn't my friend. I have met her casually on a few occasions and no that isn't an attempt at a justification.) I no longer believe in the sanctity of marriage. My feelings could change and maybe I am still bitter. I wonder if the reason that I'm having an A is like a sub-conscious revenge on him...even though it's not him?? Hmmm...

Anyway I can't pinpoint the feeling I have. I think it might be a little jealous, and I can't help but wonder if he will be faithful to her. What ticks me off is that I have these feelings to begin with.

Has anyone else been through this and had these weird feelings and don't/didn't know why?

So how long have you been divorced? Same thing here for me only ex-husband married his OW. But by the time they got married I was over it -- already remarried and moved on.

Your ex-husand and his new wife are not worth sucking the life outta you. Do something for yourself. Take a trip, go to the gym, try a new hobby. It gets better, it really does.

How's it working out for you being the OW? I was recently one too. Had its up and downs but no regrets -- lots of fond memories.

[Shoestring]

Babybird: My children came home after a visit with their father and his girlfriend and advised that my xh had remarried three months after our divorce and that there was a baby on the way. I felt like someone had punched me in the stomache. We had been married a long time and his reasons for leaving were he didn't want family or responsibility so I could not understand why he would want to jump straight back into it. That was about 4 years ago (I am so uninterested now that I can't remember when ). I looked after my children and myself and got on with my life - brought my own house, own car have a great job. I have now had a MM lover for 16 months and what I have part-time compared to what I had full time - well let me say there is just NO comparison. My xh did me the best favour. Just my perspective.