[rvj1979]

I apologize now because this might be rather long..........

I come from a single parent home and have 9 brothers and sister. Crazzzy...
My father was abusive and my mom finally left him when I was about 3. So growing up my mom drank on weekends and had all sorts of people at our house - this stopped when I was about 13-14. But for me the way I felt for her and how she viewed her responsibilities were already set. Yes she gave us hug and kisses but was never really there. She has had so many medical issues ranging from big to small I've lost count. I left home when I was 16, for the way I was raised I've turned out very well. Unfortunately for a few of my brothers and sisters that is not the case.
My sister just passed away in May from drugs. This was a life long struggle and it tore me up. My sister had 6 kids and I love them all as does my whole family. I have the 2 oldest- they lived with me prior to my sisters passing. I was trying to help them when no one helped me when I was younger. I recently got a promotion, moved to another state, and overall like it here. The other 4 kids are split between my other brothers and sister.
Sorry - long story..........

In August my mom was trying to take the two middle boys from my brother and his wife. My mom lives in a old person apartment complex, cant have kids. My brother is very very well off and can afford to raise these kids without help from the state and all of that. My mom is old, 62, doesn't work, would have to rely on the state to raise these boys and it turned into a huge fight between us. (Everyone agrees with me besides her) I told her that if she went to court to get those boys I would fight her all the way, unfortunately my brother and his wife to be honest don't love those boys like I do. I tried so hard when they were younger to give sometime of normal life while they were with my sister. But I had to cut ties for my own daughter sake and my sanity.

I realize my mom has just lost a daughter and needs all of our support but these kids just lost their mom and they are my main concern. It has to be this way because my mom tries to turn everything back on her. I sound like a selfish person but I try not to be. Since the fight back in August I have not spoken to my mom. I just can't! I have my daughter call her and my nephews. I have not cut them off from her. My daughter thinks the world of my mom and I don't talk (well try not to ) in front of her. I've been debating on contacting my mom again and trying to offer that olive branch. But I hesitate because my brothers that I talk to every week still complain about all the same things she does. It hasn't changed. What do I do????????????