Ive been feeling some what edgy or disattisfied or i dunno- just as if there's something bothering me which i cant quite get to the bottom of. My bf has approached me about it a couple of times and asked me whats the matter. each time i manage to come up with something that is niggling at me, but i never manage to get to the bottom of it.

ive been seeing him for a year and a half now. i love him with all my heart and he the same of me. We connect very well etc. But something of late is making me grouchy and negative.

i think part of it is that we are quite possessive over each other. we spend all our time together and i although ew still have and see our own friends, there's always a bit of tension when one of us do. if either of us makes plans to see friends, its almost as if the other feels like we're needing space or not wanting to spend it with each other!

We read each others' cell phones. That really irritates me and i told him about it today and he couldnt understand why. he said it was weird and why should i care? he's just curious and its like a game we play. but i feel its an invasion of my privacy. i couldnt tell him that because he would get so upset and ask why i need privacy if we are meant to be so close with no secrets between us.

the problem is is that i come across (well both of us) as being hypocritical. if one of us is out with a friend and the other at home, we get upset if I/he takes too long to reply to an sms or decides to stay out with friends instead of meet up with each other later on. (we dont live with each other).

i know this is getting really long but there is so much unease bottled up inside of me that i feel i have to get it out and try and understand whta really going on. if its just a little possessiveness problem or if im getting irritable for more serious reasons.

because ive also been feeling that mayb that things have changed between us? mayb we dont want to be with each other as often as we used to? then i think its just him who's wanting to go out more with his friends? AND MOST OF ALL IM AFRAID THAT WE'RE LOSING INTEREST IN EACH OTHER! THATS ITS NOT WORKING OUT AS WELL ANYMORE! THAT WE'RE NOT GETTING ON AS WELL EITHER!

but i love him and never want to be without him.

[ash519]

I think what you are going through is completely normal, and I have been going through it too. You get to a certain point in a relationship where it relaxes and things become more normal. It can be hard, especially if you havent been in many or any long term relationships.

For me: Been with my bf almost 2 years, living together for 1 and he started the transition into "normality". This is my first serious relationship so I dont think i get it as well as he does.

As long as you dont feel like you are losing feelings and you know you still love him...try and relax.

[Dawn_in_Dilemma]

thanks ash,
you know, i have stopped analyzing every little occurence and started to relax. i guess it is a more normal stage we have progreseed into where not everything revolves around our consumption in each other! i guess its a good thing because i have space to give attention to all the usual things i did before i met him.
thanks