[BUTAFLY]

So it was really hard for me to seek therapy after ending relationship with Brian. I thought it would go away and I could overcome this on my own. Well its going on two years and I still relaps now and then. So I finally had my first therapy session and boy was it hard. But I am glad that I took this first step and hopefully on a road to full recovery from this mess.

[johan]

What was so hard about it?

[BUTAFLY]

The relationship was somthing I didn't want to think about or talk about, in hopes feelings would go away and for the sake of "just getting over it". Things I didn't want to think of I had to bring up again...it was sorta like reliving the pain. But I have to face it inorder to move on. surpressing it is not working.

[Pyro]

Originally Posted by BUTAFLY

So it was really hard for me to seek therapy after ending relationship with Brian. I thought it would go away and I could overcome this on my own. Well its going on two years and I still relaps now and then. So I finally had my first therapy session and boy was it hard. But I am glad that I took this first step and hopefully on a road to full recovery from this mess.

It should start to get easier for you. Talking openly about it is the first step toward recovery. Good luck and I hope that everything works out for you.

[hardknocks]

wow that is one of the most positive rationale things I have heard on this board.
congratulations on recognizing the seriousness of your situation and your loss and for seeking professional help. it is a major step. you are on the right path keep working at it you will get to where you want to be!

You should be proud of yourself!

[BUTAFLY]

thanks guys

[Meaplus3]

Originally Posted by BUTAFLY

So it was really hard for me to seek therapy after ending relationship with Brian. I thought it would go away and I could overcome this on my own. Well its going on two years and I still relaps now and then. So I finally had my first therapy session and boy was it hard. But I am glad that I took this first step and hopefully on a road to full recovery from this mess.

Hi Butafly,

I am so glad for you. I found my first session to be very hard as well. For there I was telling a total stranger in person that I had become involved in an A and I am a married woman. I felt about 2 feet tall. After a few session's I did not feel so bad, but better. Talking through my feeling's and what lead me to the A has helped. I now look forward to my meeting's with my therapist. I wish you the best of luck. The end of any close relationship is very difficult in my opinion.

AP

[BUTAFLY]

yes it took almost to the end of the session to get to the reason why I was there, mainly because I felt embarrassed that a man has effected me so. My quest is not to get over HIM pursay, but to figure out why I am so attacted to him still and what keeps me attached. I think the major misperception on this board is that OW are jealous, bitter, want revenge... or what-have-you, but it's not that simple, (atleast not for me). Its about answers. I too look forward to my next session. Good luck in your journey as well.