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Old 26th January 2007, 9:30 PM   #1
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Question Couple failed attempts at dating... I realized

I met a guy and we became good friends. I was already in a very serious relationship and so was he. Fast forward two years and I got engaged to my boyfriend. My grandmother becomes very ill and the added strain of many long nights at hospital takes its toll on my relationship. My friend is right there by my side making sure I am okay while my fiance is god only knows where. I begin to have a sexual relationship with my friend behind my fiance's back this continues for 2 years. Eventually fiance found out and fiance and I decided to go our seperate ways. Friend and I continue our sex relationship no strings attached we both see other people. He told me he was having problems in his relationship(same girl from when I first met him on again off again relationship).

After a year and a couple of failed attempts at dating I realize I love him. I told him and he said he loved me too.Fast forward 6 months Then I find out he has a two month old baby by that girl from previous relationship and they have a place together that he just moved into 4 months ago. I had heard these things before as rumors but he would always deny it until he finally came clean about it. I am so mad. I yell I scream I cry and then I just wanna be done with him. But...............He claims he didn't tell me because he thought I knew and when I was asking him he was being sarcastic when he denied it.

He starts to cry and tell me how miserable he is there but he can't bear the thought of being away from his children. Tells me she is a good women and a great mother but she is not the one for him. I am shocked I have never seen him cry not even when his dad was near death. I do love him but he will not leave his girls. ( he already has problems with other childs mother and visitation as they do not get along) He is children on the weekend type dad he really loves and spends lots of time with his girls. I love him and really believe he is the one for me. He will not leave her says he can't. What should I do? Should i end it now? should I wait it out? What to do?
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