[Mochablkberry]

Hello Good People, Happy New Year to All,

I would like for everyone to respond and give me their opinions.

I have a b/f we've been together for about 10 years, like all relationships we've had our ups and downs.

This is the thing that bothers most, he has this kind of care free attitude when dealing with other women that I can't understand.

He would meet women and give them the impression he's alone and not connected to anyone and by that I mean.
He gives them all access to him, his work number, home and cell phone number. He's allows them to know it's ok to call him. When they do call and I ask who is this person this is the response I get.

I can't believe that she was so crazy to call me, they trying to destroy my relationship. I told them don't call me it will cause problems.
Why would you go the depth to give a woman all access to you if you already know that it will cause confusion between us.

Another scenario, he was studying and I guess everyone then would have had each other's contact number and I can understand that. This woman in particular went back to her country, she suddenly calls him one day out of the blue at home.
They chatted and what I can derive from the conversation it was about how each other was doing academically, he then told her he got through with his degree and how rough the studying was but he got through. All right fine, next she asks him about his cell he replies that number has changed, I have a new one let me give you the number so you can reach me anytime right in front of me.

Now why does he need to give her a cell number, I reacted to it he says he sees nothing wrong with it. Then he says I'm going to change the number soon anyways, bull****.
Had it been reverse and I did it I would have been labelled all kinds of things. Why is it that men do this ****?

He does this all the time, give the women the number and then expects me not to react to it.

I told him maybe it's time we re-evaluate this relationship and probably let it be an open one since he cant contain his actions. Why is it ok for him to want to have all the females friends and I can't have a male friend?

[Curmudgeon]

Quite frankly, I'd evaluate the relationship based more upon its longevity and the fact that he's still just a boyfriend than on how he is around and with other women. I think the two perspectives will compliment one another.