Has anybody ever experienced a bf (or gf) that was going through depression? Like, they wont admit it but the signs are there... and suddenly they have a change of heart on you and start to push u away from them... and say things that hurt you but u KNOW deep in your heart they dont mean because of their actions towards you. What would be a good solution in this? Medication? Therapy? The hardpart of this, is you try to nurture and be there for them and thats when they push more, and when you back away, then they feel worse.. anybody relate?
Yes. I have dated several men who were depressed and one who was on medication.
This is always a delicate situation. It is hard to be with someone like this. You may love them and feel as if they are an amazing person - but the bottom-line is that when you get into a relationship with someone who isn't well, you have to face up to the fact that it will be difficult. If you believe it is worth it, stick by their side but don't be pushy. Be supportive to them, but do not tell them what to do or how to go about their lives.
If you don't think it is worth the effort, tell them you will always be there for them as a friend.
But in my experience - unless someone has a serious chemical imbalance or some sort of disorder - depression is mostly a temporary and treatable disease, unless it is chronic of course. So in that case, it may be a hard couple of months but in the end - you can get through it.
totally. i've been doing that for a year now and i'm really good at pushing gf's away - have u read my new book 'the push-away by mr. delusional'.
i don't think i'll ever get that right - she hangs in there tho. not sure why but she does? gawd, i've even managed to get us both ill in the process - so buy my book now!
i'm waiting for her book - 'how to do things right and win me back u jerk'
My ex suffered from anxiety and depression. Unfortunately, so do I, and it eventually tore our relationship apart.
The only advice I can give to you really is to be there for your partner as best you can - if they want to be alone, it really is best to leave them alone.
Try and urge them to see their doctor but unfortunately alot of people are in denial when they first suffer from depression and this may be a difficult task.
And remember you can only do as much as you can - no matter how much you love someone, trying to keep a relationship with a partner who suffers from depression can be a very draining and difficult task, and it will affect the relationship no matter what.
There is no shame in walking away if you feel that you have done all you can and can do no more - thats what my ex ended up doing, and in the end i have nothing but respect for her for being strong enough to face up to the fact the relationship had no future.
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