[mettem]

So my g/f moved in almost two months ago and she had been living at home still. At the time she was becoming annoyed living with her family, but now that she doesn't live there anymore she misses being there all the time. I don't mind that she goes home alot(5-6 times a week, its not too far) and she says she doesn't want to move back in there, but if she did she probably would not tell me so I'm not sure. She has become depressed over it and is easily angered sometimes whether provoked or not. She feels bad for her mother who is disabled and her sisters don't treat her mother very well, very disrespectful. So i'm not sure if i should ask her if she wants to move out because i know she will take it like im kicking her out and dont want to be with her anymore, and i do, but any advice on what might be best for her? not sure how to go about making her feel better, but need some advice as today she is going over there for 6 hours and is going to be there all day tomorrow too, and i cant ever say anything as i did once and she took it like i was trying to keep her and her mother apart

[IpAncA]

What made her decide to move because it clearly sounds like she wasn't ready to move in the first place.

[Waldin]

Originally Posted by IpAncA

What made her decide to move because it clearly sounds like she wasn't ready to move in the first place.

i think she want to be a independent to her self....

Originally Posted by mettem

So my g/f moved in almost two months ago and she had been living at home still. At the time she was becoming annoyed living with her family, but now that she doesn't live there anymore she misses being there all the time. I don't mind that she goes home alot(5-6 times a week, its not too far) and she says she doesn't want to move back in there, but if she did she probably would not tell me so I'm not sure. She has become depressed over it and is easily angered sometimes whether provoked or not. She feels bad for her mother who is disabled and her sisters don't treat her mother very well, very disrespectful. So i'm not sure if i should ask her if she wants to move out because i know she will take it like im kicking her out and dont want to be with her anymore, and i do, but any advice on what might be best for her? not sure how to go about making her feel better, but need some advice as today she is going over there for 6 hours and is going to be there all day tomorrow too, and i cant ever say anything as i did once and she took it like i was trying to keep her and her mother apart

I can tell you this situation happened to me. I convinced my boyfriend to move with me to another country.He didnt particularly always get along with his parents and said he was ready. needless to say a few mnths after moving out he started moping around the house, and his parents would call him every single day sometimes twice (totally insanity) which really didnt help his feelings of already being homesick. He ddint want to go on vacation anywhere else but just to go see them.

He was so involved in where his parents were that OUR relationship suffered very much because of it.all I can tell you is that you really need to try to undertsand her and make sure she undertsands that not everything is her responsability because of her siblings, and that it is a burden to great for her alone. and maybe work on moving closer before all of those problems, start coming up in your relationship. and you mlight end up like me. without a relationship to call your own when the hurricanes over. Take care!

[ls3360]

How about just pointing out that she seems unhappy and asking her what's up and if you can help?

well, why did she move back with parents? doesn't she have her own place?

moving back with parents sucks - i mean they are great - but we need our own space and distance from mom and dad

i would last two weeks

i would ask the same questions and offer my abode as a safe - quiet haven for her whenever needed

i don't want that to sound pathetic or weak but damn, i just want to see u again. we are supposed to go to a concert next weds so i would love us to be comfortable going out doing that

is that wrong?

i'll sleep on the couch

just hugs, snugs and talks

i am dying to freaking see u - i've been so happy just knowing we are talking again

i am taking things slow

not asking for the moon

just wanna see u