My ex and I were together for a year and a half. She had a 2 month relationship before she met me, but it was her first and she poured all of her heart and energy into it. This guy was the captain of his highschool basketball team and quite popular among the ladies. So predictably he broke her heart after 2 months for another girl.

Now, when she and I were dating, there were numerous occasions where I caught her chatting with her ex through AIM, phone, and a couple times they actually met up and hung out. Of course I let her know how friggin unhappy I was with all this, but I didnt want to be all controlling so I decided to trust her. oh, and she also admitted that she knew that the only reason why he would contact her was to try to get back together with her.

She broke up with me 3 months ago. After attempting several times to get back with her I found this forum and decided to enter NC. It kinda worked, as it was always she who initiated phone calls or AIM messages. But it got me nowhere close to getting back with her.

Yesterday she added that she was in a relationship with this guy on Facebook. her wall (comment section) was filled with cute and playful messages from this other dude. I know that she has been hanging out with that other dude ALOT. I've heard that she sleeps over his place and vice versa. (btw she lost her virginity to me because she "so truly loved me and thought i was the one". so i'm kind of hoping that they didnt do anything or i might have some problems if we do get back together.) And so I cant help but feel so betrayed right now.

But enough about my feelings. this post is titled second chance success after all, and the two of them are happily back together, so.... for all you poor and unfortunate souls who are bleeding your hearts right now. i hope this second chance story has brought inspiration to you all.

also, if anyone can shed some light as to why he got back with her without doing NC, i would appreciate it. and any advice on what to do from here? i am planning to ask her to meet up in a couple weeks, for her birthday. but im wondering how i should approach her, should i be kind and understanding? or should i be aloof and cold. what can i do to increase my chances of getting back together with her?

thanks all

[everydaysucks]

i guess i just have it man it up and focus on what's important - my grades.

but the part that sucks is i can't tell her how i feel. that would just make it harder for the both of us to move on. there's no point in telling anyone else either, nobody really wants to help shoulder your burdens. i can't even go into detail on anonymous forums because i'm paranoid someone might recognize my story. some things will have to be buried and kept your own secret forever.

i should really think before i get myself into these things.

[Eric102]

don't be scared of anyone finding it out. Who cares, their is a reason they are on this site then =)